Hello community, this thread is going in places a community shouldn’t go. Remember to hate the argument, not the user. There are also people that said things on the fence that seemed to be making up arguments or trying to start arguments. I temp banned you.
I didn’t catch them all, feel free to report if it bugs you. I’ll take a look.
I appreciate the work you put into this. Thanks.
This is a great community, so it’s easy. You guys usually self-police, and in a funny way. The sculpture guy further down cracked my shit up while softening the conversation.
I doubt this is a real person posting this originally. Just rage baiting bots.
Nah, I’ve had conversations with them, they’re real.
Most people are single issue voters and demographics don’t change that. Race/sexuality/gender does not imply some deep overarching ideological alignment to the degree that people treat those as. It’s just some single issues and/or social group tribalism and then outside of that, they’re often all about themselves and everyone else is lazy/entitled/whatever. Spend enough years regularly doing political/community/social outreach/work, town halls, etc. Things that put you regularly in contact with people in need or saying they have unmet needs and listening to them. Also spend enough time in art communities. Surface level people may sound like they’re really about some humanistic standard. Doesn’t take long until you unravel to find someone that’s just really about getting there’s
Watch out of people that make aesthetics, popularity, a major part of the their personality and how they judge people. Social justice as top care on their socials and verbally, but racist as hell in practice with how they date and treat people and talk behind their social group members backs. Social justice peacocking but in practice finds poor people uncultured and disgusting before ever talking to them. If they dress the part, they’re an artist. If they’re an artist that wears worn down clothing, they’re uncultured and likely problematic.
Away from that, I don’t know anyone that brags about buying a knife set that’s a fundamentally good cook. Someone getting started trying to get good may get one but they usually want to get rid of it not long after trying to fundamentally do well in a kitchen. Social status home cooks may know a small set of recipes but just change the size of their pots and pans and they fall apart. They can’t scale with portions and don’t know ingredients independent of a complete dish. Knife blocks, people regularly just drop a knife in the slot and dull their knives. Knife blocks also have so many redundant knives where they’re like 1cm different in size. Same with pan/pot sets. Also non stick stuff. Have like one for fish and eggs and a silicon spatula to flip. It’ll last a super long time. A non stick pot to boil noodles in, fresh noodles are in and out. Dried noodles don’t even take that long. If you’re cooking some chunky noodles and you can’t manage stirring it occasionally for 10 minutes, come on. Other stuff, learn temp control and your ingredients. Stop burning stuff. It’s practice. And when you mess up, learn to clean your encrusted pans. You’ll get there
Gardening. Develop and maintain your soil. Your aesthetics won’t make up for poorly maintained soil. And if you’re starting with rocky dead clay, no till gardening doesn’t apply to you yet. You can till at least once here to quickly deal with compaction and introduce life to your soil. If it’s your first year, be patient and don’t be shaming people. At least make it a few years instead of being a first year asshole and then quitting because gardening takes a lot of maintenance. A lot of repetitive busy work
Decor, if you newly own the place, consider how old the pipes, insulation, electrical is. You may want to handle that before piling in new furniture, decorations, painting walls. Also what happened to the whole environmentalism stuff. In my experience people that place a major emphasis on decorations to express their individuality and/or aesthetics are often vocal environmentalist but mostly fail because of their need to show off.
Aesthetics hide a lot of mediocrity. Don’t be fooled by aesthetics
People like that would vote republican if they where men.
the comment section i came to see did not disappoint. my goodness
I’ve had several women come into my apartment and make the exact same comments. Grown adults who are impressed by another adult just functioning are a red flag, regardless of gender.
The biggest green flag someone can throw is just insulting you I guess
That’s right, I hate waffles. I definitely said that.
no bro. they only did that because you are a misogynist, clearly! if only you didn’t hate women, they wouldn’t say these things to you.
Aww, someone learned a big word today!
Not everyone can afford to hang art on the wall, lil bro
That’s right little buddy, not everyone can afford to do that. You are very smart.
Any excuse to shit on men.
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Wow way to take a joke out of context because no place does it say trans men. So should I be offended because the poster is telling me to be a trans women.
if you’re a cis man there is absolutely no reason for you to be offended OR to insert yourself into this conversation. This is not for or about you right now.
Look up Poe’s law
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your intentions are pure but your time and energy would be better spent elsewhere
Like yes, i want a mommy to take care of me but that and me appreciating your house is not related 💀
Unless making Lieutenant Commander Airiam as mother.
Had nice paintings on the wall, spotless place, no clutter, clean bed all before I got married. No paintings,dirty (not gross ) tons of clutter w/wife and kids.
What is the point of art on the wall?
Is there a better place to hang it? Or are you a sculpture purist?
Lmao. They could mean something more like this. The architect look:
Also know as “a canvas of my footprint because I will randomly kick it late one night when shuffling half asleep to grab a glass of water or pee”. :D
Dude, you totally get it. It’s all about the name.
same. and my car used to be spotless. now it has crumbs and wrappers everywhere.
My place looks like a laboratory. I’m still on the original primer on the walls. Blow me.
I’m adding wall plates for my Ethernet any day now…
In the wall? I just have the cable strewn across the floor.
Any memories I have of cables strewn across the floor of my living space are memories of good times in my life.
I still have cables on the floor. But now they are long enough that they go around the edges of the room behind furniture and stuff. These days a CAT8 25ft cable is like $10.
I got some cable clips and routed mine along the top of the wall 😎
Through the wall, I have plenty on the floor.
A real charmer here lol
Generally true though. Society robs us of all joy on purpose. Can’t have shit as a man, because that looks kind of gay.
I’m getting all the stuff society does not want me to.
What the hell are you talking about? You can’t have a rug or society will call you gay?
He is the world’s dumbest man.
Yes, that is why the Dude was so annoyed when he missed his rug.
It really tied his personality together.
If you have too much decorative stuff in your room, people start to suspect you.
Luckily, what people think, means jack shit to me, as you can tell by all the dislikes I’m ignoring.
You said you can’t have “shit”, which generally means “can’t have anything”.
You live some weird ass fucking fantasy world. Being called gay for having a rug is not common, at all.
There are real societal toxic masculinity thing that affect men, we don’t need this ludicrous made up bullshit.
What robs us of joy is caring about other people’s expectations for us. We are free when we stop worrying about what people think.
Man you can stop worrying about people but that sure won’t stop them from treating you like shit
Yep.
many people’s life purpose is to treat other people they don’t like shit, based on their perceived differences. and they will go out of their way to do like, harass random strangers over this shit. or just force every causal acquaintance of run this gantlet they have in their head of hatred and bias because they feel other people must ‘prove’ themselves to them.
Vote with your feet.
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Tough shit. I’m getting all the “gay” shinny shit, and there is nothing you can legally do about it.
I’m getting so much useless vane shit, just to spite society.
Vanes are useful though.
shinny shit
It’s funny because with two n’s in that word it just turns the word “shin” into an adjective.
Is that what you’re describing? A male living space full of shitty shins?
vane shit
Okay now you’re talking about a directional spinny thing you can put up on top of your house that tells you which way the wind is blowing. And I guess it’s spewing shit or something. I dunno. You’re the one who said it.
shiny adjective ˈshī-nē
: having a smooth glossy surface
: filled with light
: lustrous
vain adjective
: having or showing undue or excessive pride in one’s appearance or achievements : conceited
vane noun
: a movable device attached to an elevated object (such as a spire) for showing the direction of the wind
Oh sure, flex your higher education on me.
Lemmy is social media not a spelling test lol
Social media, at it’s core, is people communicating with each other. Effective communication requires using the correct words to convey the message you’re trying to send.
Using poor spelling, grammar or punctuation risks people A) misunderstanding what you’re trying to say, or B) thinking that you’re ignorant or uneducated and that therefore your input is of no value.
Like a rug?
well it really ties the room together
Ehem… there’s a lot of places where they can legally do something about it… sadly. Agree on the sentiment, anyway.
Nobody cares and that was always an option.
seems like a dumb reason to do something, but… enjoy, I guess.
Rage bait is rage bait.
i’ve had women come over to my place and do this. and then tell me it made them uncomfortable because men are not supposed to be able to cook, clean, let alone decorate.
An example of women perpetuating toxic masculinity
no, when they do that they are just ‘expressing a preference for a manly man’.
and if you tell them how problematic (and self-defeating usually) their ideas are, they tell you how you just hate all women and you have no right to criticize their ‘preferences’ and clearly you are insecure and pathetic.
this same technique is also used to justify rabid racism against non-white men all the time. It’s always amazed me how women hide behind the ‘patriarchy’ and their ‘oppression’ only to rapidly perpetuate the rapidly racist and sexist nonsense they happen to believe in. I’ve also been on some date with women of color who do this, it’s not like restricted to white women.
What I will say is the women who do do this… are typically privileged and wealthy types whose main dispute with life is they are NOT privileged and wealthy enough… and that it’s an evil and oppressive society of awful men that is preventing them form making an extra 50-100K on their already 300K salary.
What a manly man? I kill and butcher my own meat. But also cook do laundry and clean. Or is manly gym bro muscles.
Vanity muscles ONLY. Anytbing else will TURN you.
You’re just describing shitty people in general.
Birds of a feather, as they say.
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I once dumbfounded a woman by ironing a patch on a jacket.
keep being you and i promise theres women out there to appreciate itfully retracted, your honor lol
the women who appreciate it are not attracted to me sexually. or they are already married. i have had plenty of female friends who admire my home and my cooking. but i’ve never been in a sexual relationship with a lady who saw it as a positive, only as a threat.
the issue with dating that people really struggle to be honest about, is most of us have limited options in potential partners, and it’s either accept what’s available, or date nobody. i know exactly who would work for me to date, but sadly none of those women find me attractive, and the one who do find me attractive, are the ones who i have absolutely nothing in common with, and who think my lifestyle choices and values make me a closeted homosexual.
and yeah i’d rather be alone than be in another relationship with someone who constantly makes jokes about how i’m secretly gay and i’m going to leave her for a man, or what a pussy I am for being human and being upset over events like the death of my parents. but that’s the type of woman who finds me attractive and wants to date me.
i have seen your comments about dating in the past and i gotta say you seem like the problem. some of the things you have said are straight up misogynist. sorry if i dont believe this is the norm
Right, it’s me that hates women, and it’s not you that’s sexist and making sexist generalizations based on a total lack of personal experience with men, which you do not regard as human beings, no doubt.
you know who also tells me I hate all women? every shitty abusive girlfriend I have rejected or stood up to.
and what’s funny, is the women i meet who weren’t that way, don’t tend to call me misogynist when I reject or refute them.
which you do not regard as human beings
What a pathetic fuckin tactic. Starting to see like you’re exaggerating and much more of the problem than you’re willing to admit.
As a man with successful and healthy relationships who has read a lot of your bullshit throughout a lot of these kinds of threads, you are 100% the problem person in your life and relationships.
Stop blaming other people for your shitty behavior. You’re the one behind the wheel.
you know nothing about me lmao but thanks for proving my point.
you know nothing about me, how is your belief about me legitimate, by your own logic then?
all you really know is i said words you don’t like. you self-reported as never dating men, so I find it kind of ironic that you seem to think you know anything about being in relationships with them.
are you sure I hate women, or is it more that you just hate men, because you don’t see them as people, as you have no personal experience in intimate relationships with them?
lil snippy aintcha
