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    Hello community, this thread is going in places a community shouldn’t go. Remember to hate the argument, not the user. There are also people that said things on the fence that seemed to be making up arguments or trying to start arguments. I temp banned you.

    I didn’t catch them all, feel free to report if it bugs you. I’ll take a look.

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    3.5 million views? Why? Is this person supposed to be famous or something? And for what and absolute unnecessarly condescending nasty tweet? What am I missing here?!

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    How dare you compliment your host? What are you a “gracious guest”? How disgusting.

    Seriously, what does she think she is accomplishing here besides broadcasting her misandry?

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    Oh you like waffles? So you hate pancakes and support cakecide?

    This is why people just don’t compliment strangers anymore or engage in any sort of polite conversation.

    Everyone is looking for irl or online gatcha moments for that sweet hit of online dopamine.

    It’s sick.

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    I thought “wow, she’s worth avoiding”.

    Then I thought “oh no, people are going to overgeneralise the heck outta both this person and her nasty comments and the comments are gonna be a shitshow of stereotypes and crap gender war shit”. I was not even a little bit wrong. There are definitely exceptions, but I think the most noise is being made by that stuff.

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    13 hours ago

    Consider that the original tweeter is a shitlord and that their entire anecdote is made up to generate “engagement”, and don’t worry about it ever again.

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    Most people are single issue voters and demographics don’t change that. Race/sexuality/gender does not imply some deep overarching ideological alignment to the degree that people treat those as. It’s just some single issues and/or social group tribalism and then outside of that, they’re often all about themselves and everyone else is lazy/entitled/whatever. Spend enough years regularly doing political/community/social outreach/work, town halls, etc. Things that put you regularly in contact with people in need or saying they have unmet needs and listening to them. Also spend enough time in art communities. Surface level people may sound like they’re really about some humanistic standard. Doesn’t take long until you unravel to find someone that’s just really about getting there’s

    Watch out of people that make aesthetics, popularity, a major part of the their personality and how they judge people. Social justice as top care on their socials and verbally, but racist as hell in practice with how they date and treat people and talk behind their social group members backs. Social justice peacocking but in practice finds poor people uncultured and disgusting before ever talking to them. If they dress the part, they’re an artist. If they’re an artist that wears worn down clothing, they’re uncultured and likely problematic.

    Away from that, I don’t know anyone that brags about buying a knife set that’s a fundamentally good cook. Someone getting started trying to get good may get one but they usually want to get rid of it not long after trying to fundamentally do well in a kitchen. Social status home cooks may know a small set of recipes but just change the size of their pots and pans and they fall apart. They can’t scale with portions and don’t know ingredients independent of a complete dish. Knife blocks, people regularly just drop a knife in the slot and dull their knives. Knife blocks also have so many redundant knives where they’re like 1cm different in size. Same with pan/pot sets. Also non stick stuff. Have like one for fish and eggs and a silicon spatula to flip. It’ll last a super long time. A non stick pot to boil noodles in, fresh noodles are in and out. Dried noodles don’t even take that long. If you’re cooking some chunky noodles and you can’t manage stirring it occasionally for 10 minutes, come on. Other stuff, learn temp control and your ingredients. Stop burning stuff. It’s practice. And when you mess up, learn to clean your encrusted pans. You’ll get there

    Gardening. Develop and maintain your soil. Your aesthetics won’t make up for poorly maintained soil. And if you’re starting with rocky dead clay, no till gardening doesn’t apply to you yet. You can till at least once here to quickly deal with compaction and introduce life to your soil. If it’s your first year, be patient and don’t be shaming people. At least make it a few years instead of being a first year asshole and then quitting because gardening takes a lot of maintenance. A lot of repetitive busy work

    Decor, if you newly own the place, consider how old the pipes, insulation, electrical is. You may want to handle that before piling in new furniture, decorations, painting walls. Also what happened to the whole environmentalism stuff. In my experience people that place a major emphasis on decorations to express their individuality and/or aesthetics are often vocal environmentalist but mostly fail because of their need to show off.

    Aesthetics hide a lot of mediocrity. Don’t be fooled by aesthetics

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    Like yes, i want a mommy to take care of me but that and me appreciating your house is not related 💀

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    Maybe the dude was just… you know.

    Poor.

    Came from an environment that was usually a mess, chaotic, disordered, and he was genuienly impressed by how simple things, in order, can give a significant sense of safety and stability.

    Maybe he’d never seen that before, maybe he had no model of a tidy and peaceful living space.

    The same scenario could happen with anyone, of any sex or gender.

    Man, broad societal levels of narcissism are just off the fucking charts these days… its the literal opposite of solidarity, of empathy.

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      Or maybe he was just being nice? I can’t imagine being invited to friend’s new house and not giving compliments unless im like worried about them moving into an unsafe situation.

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        Sure, maybe he was being performatively praising when he didn’t actually care that much at all about the home’s decor itself, but wanted to affirm the resident’s decor choice regardless.

        Aka ‘being nice’.

        Maybe a million different possible things.

        Why do you imagine its a new house, like the resident just moved there?

        You could just… be going to someone’s home for the first time. Maybe they’ve lived there for years, maybe they just moved in, who knows?

        My point here is that there’s a lot of additional context required for your interpretation. Your interpretation also manufactures and then ascribes an intent.

        My interpretation only requires that men who were raised poor exist, and does not manufacture or ascribe an intent.

    • Growing up my house was always trashed. Parents with depression and full time jobs don’t leave much time and energy for cleaning up, and there’s only so much children without guidance can do.

      So once I had my own defined space, it was basically minimalist to expedite cleaning. I didn’t start getting more stuff, even clothes, until my partner moved in.

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        Me growing up, it wasn’t quite that bad for myself, but some of my neighbors were from… way more fucked up families.

        They had basically this exact same ‘Wow.’ moment, just… coming over, and seeing that… order was possible, things could be put basically back in place after use, etc.

        They had no previous concept of it.

        I remember going over to one of their houses once and literally stepping in dogshit, inside.

        They just… forgot to let the dog out, I guess. Regularly enough that this was annoying but basically normal.

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      Oh hey!

      It’s that user.

      The user who types.

      They type like this.

      I don’t really know why.

      But they loves single sentence paragraphs.

      It’s not a problem.

      I just don’t get why they do it.

      Maybe they’re trying to build suspense?

      Idk it’s just so…

      …mysterious…

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      if he was poor then he’s an asshole for having been poor.

      people don’t have empathy for people who are poor. just malice.

      I live an upper middle class lifestyle in my 40s. i haven’t been poor for 20+ years, and yet for some people, it’s considered something you can never live down, it’s an original sin from which you can’t ever be washed clean. you would be amazed at how openly hostile and violent people are towards those who are not as economically fortune as they are. rich and privileged people do not regard the poor and middle-class as human beings.