I thought most of those things were the standard
Your parents. Your parents are expected to teach you these.
- How is this a guide for adults?? I knew most of these before I became an adult.
- These ought to be taught by parents and other adults which are important in the child’s life, and backed up by demonstrations by example. Parents have a duty to demonstrate correct behaviours themselves, and reinforce those behaviours in their children.
- The shopping cart one ought to be extended to “if you pick something up in the store and don’t want it, put it back where you got it from”. I see far too much perishable frozen/refrigerated goods stuffed elsewhere on a shelf and dethawing to unsaleability because people changed their minds and couldn’t be arsed to put it back where it came from.
- For the “cover your mouth” one - please, for the love of Pete, learn the difference between a cough and a clearing of the throat. They are not the same damn thing.
I never knew the let people exit first because I never lived anywhere with public transit. It’s obvious if someone brings any attention to it but in my head getting on the subway the first few times I was like “why are people running into me what is happening” lol
Fuck AI alop.
Are you claiming this posted content to be AI generated or that we should ‘Fuck AI slop’ as a etiquette?
Both, I guess.I can see the yellow background and thick black lines, which are usually the signs of a generated image. Edit: Also the money in the tip jar looks like some unholy amalgamation of coins and bills.
Half of the tips overlap with each other too
You missed one: don’t use ai to generate images.
He missed a few more as well.
- don’t command people what to do, instead ask them politely
- don’t yuck other people’s yum
I think as far as etiquette goes, I would say: don’t paste me unfiltered AI output. If it’s not worth your effort to at least summarize that wall of slop, it’s not worth my effort to read it.
Just report and block the guy
You cover your mouth with your hand when you cough, but you don’t cover your ass when you fart. Curious.
Unless you’re naked; your ass is already covered.
You assume a lot about both my anatomy and my clothing choices
I blows my mind how many adults don’t know this. The way I was raised, I’d be embarrassed to get in someone’s way as they tried to exit an elevator. But I was also taught that common decency is a good thing and we’ve clearly given up on that.
But I was also taught that common decency is a good thing
Funny, I never saw it as a decency thing, more utilitarian. It’s a waste of effort to try to cram myself into an already occupied box (unless there are occupants staying in the box, of course).
Same with trains. Nobody in my city seems to get that. I just barge my way through them crowded at the entrance if I’m getting out
How else can I crop dust if I can’t leave first? Did no one teach them how to crop dust?
It’s wild when I see people just shove onto an elevator like my dude. The hell. Why. And they get mad when we’re all annoyed at them!
At an airport there was a long wait and elevator was packed. My father in law and kids all got in, and now it’s full then it goes to next floor and more people cram in. Now it is over stuffed. Goes to another floor and my father-in-law was fed up, when the doors opened he shoved the front people out and said this is where you get off and hit door close. They were saying “hey this isn’t my floor”.
Poor etiquette on both sides but still makes me laugh.
To hell with your tipping culture
Yeah this makes it seem US flavored.
Hold the door if someone is right behind you.
Unless you’re entering a secure location, in which case don’t.
My work place has to keep sending out emails to remind everyone to not hold the door open for people tailing them.
That’s… most unfortunate. I’ve yet to work in any place where that wouldn’t have been grounds for immediate dismissal.
eye contact
No thank you
Please don’t cover your mouth when you cough with your hands. Please don’t.
Just to clarify, the suggestion here is to use the crook of your elbow.
Like Dracula!
Bela Lugosi
No use your neighbors butt cheeks. Play them like the tuba
Well, I’m now officially unsubscribed from “I’ll try anything once.”
I mean it was a better solution than coughing openly into a group you are talking to, assuming you’d wash your hands afterward; but being in a men’s bathroom, guys using the urinal or bowl just walk out without washing hands, so there is that.
Coughing with your hands? Haha.
I think your comment could do with a tweak.
“When you cough, please don’t cover your mouth with your hands. Please don’t.”
-or-
“Please don’t cover your mouth, when you cough, with your hands. Please don’t.”
Yeah. It doesn’t read right! 🥴
Don’t look in my eyes. Fuck that don’t even look at me if you can help it and I’ll return the favor
A smile is enough. A smile while talking transfers a smile to the voice (a trick I learned in the phone mines) . Eye contact is great but you don’t have to have it.
I live in a country where tipping isn’t a thing, and nobody here wants it to be a thing. And American tourists come over and can’t comprehend not tipping so they tip anyway because they think we’re just being mean to each other and that we all want tipping to be a thing.
No one taught you this? Even if nobody sits you down for a lesson, you are taught by example by the people around you when you grow up.
Also, the tipping and keeping doors open for people behind you are not universally applicable. In large swaths of Asia you’ll be met by ire or confusion respectively. So maybe this is missing a generated image for being culturally sensitive.
Not disagreeing with what you’re saying here but it seems to assume that everyone is able to understand unspoken etiquette, which unfortunately isn’t the case.
For example, for myself, I hadn’t ever learned about a bunch of these (such as the waiting for other people to exit the elevator/doorway before entering, as well as the acknowledging staff one,) since I barely see them in action nor really concentrate deliberately on them, and it doesn’t help the fact I’m quite likely autistic.
Frankly, it’d be great if I was sat down and told about each of these things early on, it would’ve saved me from many years of confusion, conflict and anxiety, and it would’ve prevented me from thinking the reason I don’t fit in is exclusively my fault and I should pay for it.
I frankly don’t believe that this guide alone would have solved as many issues for you as it would also cause. What is presented as universal wisdom is never that simple. The “nobody taught you” aspect is not universally true. I counted ten items in the list I was taught in school or by my parents. I’m not the center of the universe but we can extrapolate that some people have been taught some of these things in some setting. So there is already a mistake in the headline.
This “cool guide” is either redundant (letting people exit a place or the elevator first are roughly the same thing) or not specific enough (letting people exit buses and trains etc. before you enter is missing). You should also offer your chair or seat to those who need it more than you (e.g. pregnant, old, or injured people). You don’t have to offer a replacement date if you cancel an appointment if you canceled in the first place because you don’t want to hang out with an asshole. You don’t need to clean up a mess you made while running outside while the house is on fire. There will be instances where you don’t need to return a borrowed item in the same or better condition than when you borrowed it. If I lended you my dirty lawnmower I would not expect you to clean it or sharpen its blades before you returned it. The additional wear and tear is factored in already.
This poster gives the impression to contain simple, universal, virtuous truths. But none of them are always simple or always logical. They are at best a patchy guideline missing even more unarticulated conditions and exceptions that render them useless. And if you aren’t aware of the missing bits, you’ll still have awkward social interactions.
My suspicion is that somebody created a list of things they thought was the epitome of wisdom in general social interactions, in the US and not in a city with public transport options. They possibly used so-called AI to compile this list. It’s even more likely that they used it to design the poster and to draw the little pictures. And then posted it online to be praised for their effort (don’t aura farm ought to be a bullet point on this poster as well). It deserves to be criticized.
Yeah, this list was pretty vague honestly, I gotta agree on that front. And yeah, some of these were things I was taught by parents and peers, although that said, I don’t believe I was taught in primary school (or elementary school if that’s easier to understand) about really any of these, since the education system where I live is pretty permissive for what happens in kindergarten, primary school and middle school, but excessively strict in high school for some reason. Although, I do believe I was taught a bunch in kindergarten, but that was so long ago I barely remember anything apart from some kid who pushed me over for no reason lol.
Also yeah, the US-defaultism of this “cool guide” doesn’t really help either, especially as you mentioned, with the lack of public transport etiquette and the insistence on tipping.
There’s also the fact that for something like public transport, or even just doorways in general, exiting and entering is different based on the area and context. Such as where I live, where people on public transport take one side when entering, and the other side exits at the same time, whereas in store doorways for instance, if it’s wide enough it’s the same, but if it’s narrow enough people would need to wait their turn.
Overall, after having a thought about this “guide”, it’s generally low quality and biased, I’d rather just exert more energy trying to understand the etiquette of my peers rather than look at a guide like this unless it’s actually meaningful and specific.
Autistic people exist
I wish people would stop reminding me of my existence
As a trans autistic person, same.
Your parents failed you if they didn’t teach at least half of these, Christ.
