Non non, déjà foutragan c’est de la poésie à l’état pur, et ensuite l’académie aime un bon mot-valise comme courriel, franglais ou pergélisol.

all gorbachev and putin was to be accepted by the west but the supremacist views run so deep

I’m sure Putin weeps tears of regret over the peaceful future that could have been had the “evil west” let him, when he sends deluge after deluge of shahed drones and missiles flying into people’s homes every night so he can murder parents and children in their beds hundreds of kilometers away from the frontline.

Didn’t know your story, I assumed you were just acting immature and I found it amusing to answer back with a juvenile quip. If I made you feel attacked for not understanding social clues because of your neurodivergence or something like that, I am sorry.

Nah mate, pretty sure I’ll never be in a state where I want to have children. Just read his message and thought it was for the best he didn’t. Also I would never use the word breeders, it makes you sound obnoxious and not very intelligent like a 14 yo.

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I could give a detailed answer like I did till now but why bother.

No to all you’ve just said.

Also moral relativism and nihilism is edgelord garbage, I thought so when I was a highschooler and I always will. You can and you should have some universalism regarding morals. You shouldn’t fuck children, no matter the culture or time in history. Pain is also universal and so is the evil of inflicting it for pleasure or callousness. I could go on but you and I have nothing to say to each other.

I don’t know how common it is, but I’ve had several past girlfriends express internalised homophobia against gay men, bisexuals or lesbians, and that’s too damn high a number since as french leftist, I don’t harmonize with conservative women. When I was younger I was naive or dumb enough to think that we would both grow as people in the relationship and some of my values would rub up on them. Now that would an instant curtain call for me, you can grow up as person in your own time, I have better things to do.

So gay men should suck it up and give women a chance?

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“If there’s a rational reason to reject someone, like […]or your sexual orientation is not compatible, then it’s fine rejecting them but not disliking or being repulsed by them.”

Second paragraph, towards the end. So what else didn’t you bother to read / try to understand ?

Are the sexual orientations of gay men and women compatible ? Did I imply that anywhere ?

Most of attraction/unattraction is not rational. It is emotional. It is a visceral feeling that doesn’t care about logic.

I, personally, don’t like mint chocolate. When I put it in my mouth, I feel a visceral feeling of disgust, and spit it out. There is no logic behind this - it is just what I like and don’t like.

We’re not talking about food, were talking about people. If they’re not harming anyone, they deserve to be treated with respect, as equals. Treating people with respect includes overcoming any prejudice you may have internalised growing up. Also having a visceral reaction, not an excuse. Visceral reactions can be questioned, and their causes deconstructed. It is possible to grow up as a person even as adult. Racism is visceral reaction, and it still wrong. At least in the reality of moral objectivism that I live in.

But I am curious, do some groups of people give you a “visceral feeling of disgust” like mint chocolate gives you ? What groups of people would those be ?

I also provided examples of being turned off by people who are shy, dumb, or poor. Again, these are not logical reasonings, but visceral responses to an individual and their traits.

Yeah, and you can choose whomever you like as a partner, but repulsion for an entire group of people not doing any harm like poor people or shy people, is the realm of irrational hatred or fear, and that’s never ok. Or are you saying it’s ok or normal being viscerally repulsed by poor or shy people ?

Again visceral feeling are not an excuse, you’re have higher reasoning, and are supposed to at least try to understand and control your feelings if you want to treat other people fairly. Otherwise there’s no sense of accountability for your actions, you just go by pretending you’re a mere vessel to your emotions, and stay indifferent to how your behaviour affects other people.

You’re demonizing all women who like straight guys but are turned off by bi guys by calling them biphobic.

If the only thing turning off a woman in a man is that he is bisexual then yeah, that’s what being prejudiced is. Same guy, same level of physical attractiveness, just as good a person, but straight : desirable. Exact same person but bisexual man : repulsive and less than a real man. That’s a biphobic woman, she doesn’t see bisexual men as worthy of the same level of respect as straight men, as equals to straight men.

But I get the sense that your ethics and mine don’t mix.

Objectivity is when something is true with no observer present. Morality requires an observer to decree what is right and wrong. This is why we have many philosophical schools of ethics, but only one school of physics (except at the very edge of research).

Look. I’m not a philosopher or a historian of Ideas, so my knowledge of moral relativism and moral objectivism or universalism, is at a highschool level, so I think what I’m saying and how I’m saying is perfectly understandable in every day language without resorting to philosophical semantics (and frankly I don’t even know why you brought up physics in a story about social issues).

In my stance of moral objectivism, I hold my ex accountable for her prejudice against bisexual and gay men, because it’s a stance where seeing bisexual men as inferior and repulsive is wrong regardless of your personal history, culture and upbringing, since being a bisexual man does no harm to anyone and if that bothers you you should get a life.

In your stance of what I see as moral relativism, it’s unfair to hold my ex accountable for her prejudice because the context of her “visceral feeling of disgust” is what is truly important, and she’s just unjustly misunderstood.

Those two stances are not compatible.

Ugh… Thanks for whiteknighting my ex’s being biphobic with your moral relativism.

First of all I don’t know why you felt the need to inject sexual puritanism into the conversation, it’s not really a thing culturally in present day France, especially not in me or my exes mindset or social circles.

Second, don’t give me this your mileage may vary bullshit, some things are objectively bad. Having preferences is fine. Being phobic against a group of people is not. It’s fine to be more easily attracted to tall people, or short, or green eyed, or mixed raced or whatever physical characteristic, as long as it doesn’t turn into a fetish, and I won’t get into that whole other subject. But being repulsed or disliking an entire group of people because of a not morally wrong trait, is objectively wrong and textbook definition of being phobic. Being attracted more easily/often to white people with blue eyes and dimples rather than black people is fine, you like what you like. But being repulsed by all black people, or gingers, or Asians, for the sole reason they are black, or ginger, or Asian, is not. And no, nobody said you owe some random person a shag, just because they’re from a minority. But questioning why someone is repulsed by the entirety of group of people is legitimate. If there’s something universally morally wrong with a group, like fucking Nazis, it’s fine being repulsed. If there’s a rational reason to reject someone, like not wanting to get a in a relationship with a firefighter cause you don’t want a partner who may die in a fire one day, or your sexual orientation is not compatible, then it’s fine rejecting them but not disliking or being repulsed by them. If the only reason you dislike or are repulsed by a group of people is irrational, like they’re a different race or different sexual orientation, then it’s textbook bigotry/phobia, and that’s objectively wrong.

So to go back to the story with my ex; being a bisexual man is not a visual or physical trait. So if you’re a woman who likes having sex with men, and you were to reject or feel disgust for a man you otherwise are attracted to and enjoy having sex with, for the only reason that you can’t deal with the idea/image of him having sex with other men in the past, that’s textbook biphobia and homophobia, and that’s objectively wrong. If you feel so disturbed by this hypothetical, you feel the need to ask me, your partner at the time, a self declared straight man you are in a committed relationship with, if I hid sexual experiences with men from you, to assuage your irrational fears, you’re being biphobic and that’s just wrong. Again, if you’re a woman having sex with men, and don’t trust bisexual men because you think they will cheat with men, guess what, still biphobic, still wrong. Nobody’s demonizing anybody, moral relativism sucks, some things are in fact objectively wrong.

Sorry you had to experience this bullshit. I think people like that lack the emotional intelligence to see other people as equals. Instead they only value them as much as whatever personal satisfaction they extract out of them. Intrinsically you’ve lost nothing of value that day, but I know the sudden betrayal of the friendship you thought you had can be shocking and hurtful.

Maybe being gay is a weakness.

Lol at you trying to frame blatant homophobia as an “innocent” question. Do you also do birthdays you fucking clown.

If a woman wants a strong husband, is that regressive ?

“If someone doesn’t want to date outside their race, is that regressive?”

If your reasoning for not being attracted to someone, is because what they are makes them seen as “inferior” by bad people, you are a bad person yourself.

When I was fairly younger, I was in a relationship with a woman who told me that if she were to learn that I had sex with a man, especially bottoming but also topping (she didn’t use those terms, she used bad terms), then she would feel disgusted and betrayed and would never feel attracted to me again or see me as a man again.

I said to her that I was disappointed in her, that she had internalised homophobia and that she was a massive hypocrite. Her self proclaimed best male friend presented to the world as flamingly gay, and she was openly bi herself, not as in “I would totally fuck women cause I like the idea of it”, bus as in she had fucked women before and would do it again. Apparently she deserves to be fucked by a real man, which apparently bi men are not.

So…yeah, you can be a loudly proclaimed ally AND a member of the LGBTQ community yourself, and still be a disgusting homophobe right alongside the best of bigots.

Yeah, it makes stuff way easier and way faster to arrive to a result of mediocrity, at best.

Our short lived civilizations and their survival, and our much much shorter lives and the lives of our direct descendants, can’t be stretched to fit into geological timescales. So I’m not really seeing the point you’re trying to make if there even is one.

I heard the sarcasm cristal clear when I read it the first time

“If we have to burn a few bridges with Denmark”

First, no motherfucker, you’re talking about burning bridges with the entire EU, we are a union for a reason after all even if Hungarian and Slovakian leadership thinks otherwise. And whatever bridge is left to burn with Canada will be gone, I assume. And second, casually threatening Europe with nuclear fire from a “political entertainer”, straight out of Russia playbook. I wonder at what point the seething anger I’ve felt towards America for months is going to morph into hatred. What a nice relaxing weekend this is. Fucking great.

This is not about about the naturalization process, or about naturalized Estonian citizens, but foreign residents. In the EU, if you’re not a national or EU citizen, you are not owed to vote in the local elections because you’re a legal resident. Previously Russian and Belarusian resident were graciously allowed to vote, and now this privilege will be rescinded. So I wouldn’t say it’s nationalist jingoism but common sense, Russia is actively engaged in hybrid warfare with the EU, and countries with a shared border are worried enough about illegal crossing from russian agent, so Estonia doesn’t need to grant special privilege to foreign citizens from a hostile country so they can mess with their local elections.

This is fucking abject. Trump’s mouthpieces trying real hard to pretend like the war in Ukraine is entirely the fault of the Ukrainian people and treating with contempt, for what ? Getting invaded and bravely resisting the enemy coming to kill them on the frontline and their homes ? Getting betrayed by their strongest military ally ? While Russia, the country sending wave after wave of soldiers, missiles and drones to kill Ukrainians in their own country, by some twist of their mind, bears no responsibility for the continuing of this war. “They got themselves to blame” ? For not wanting to capitulate without conditions after 3 years of war and deadly sacrifices, and giving away their natural resources to the US for nothing in return ? I will never forget how perfidiously the US is currently acting no matter how many years pass, and I think many others in Europe won’t either.

Yeah and? Doesn’t make his opinion any less garbage

Do something better with your life mate