Was he using that poor pup for mustache plugs?

Sorry for the late reply, I had to kind of work myself up to responding. I’ve been in your shoes, with my spouse and one of my children, at different times.

With my spouse, I talked to them about what I was going to do in order to keep things safe. I had a locked space and a key that was hidden when I was sleeping and otherwise always on my person. The main thing was to keep things out of immediate reach when they were feeling a crisis and I wasn’t with them.

With my child, my spouse and I worked with the care team at the facility to put together a safety plan. Then we worked with the school to put in place a safety plan for school. No sharps, eyes on pencils, limited access to anything that could be used for self harm, etc.

At home, we explained to our other kids that anything sharp, (kitchen, garage, bathrooms, craft areas, etc) was to be put away into a special locked area. Any medications were also put into a special locked area. In our case this was a locked closet in the primary bedroom, with keys not being accessible and the location within the primary suite unknown to the child. I also added a self-installed security alarm to my bedroom and the closet.

The most critical conversations we had, in both of these situations was started with: “I need to know that you are safe, I do not want anything bad to happen to you. So I need you to be one hundred percent honest with me about what you feel is dangerous in our home.” That made for some difficult things to hear, but they allowed me to help put barriers up between the ideation and the execution, which is all I think you really can do at home.

Ok, that was the difficult part to talk about. Here’s the part where I tell you I’m about 6 years from when my child was hospitalized after we discovered that they were self harming. I had no idea what to do, we were not equipped to deal with that. We did what we thought was best at the time. We got my child into therapy. We had a lot of difficult conversations. Sometimes things are still difficult for them, we do keep potentially damaging medications locked up because they proactively came to us and said “mom, dad, I’m not feeling safe with easy access to these medications, can you help me?” So we did. Generally speaking, we have our kid back. We kind of lost them for awhile when they were struggling, but with therapy and honest communication we have the kid we knew again. Things can get better.

With my spouse, they’ve struggled with depression for their entire life. We were at an incredibly stressful point, and they came to me and said that they needed help to protect themselves from self harm. I had a similar conversation with them as we did with our child and implemented needed changes while they were needed. That was 3ish years ago now, the stressful situation was resolved, and things are back to normal in that area again.

You can and will get through this. It will be difficult and painful at times. Honesty and transparency are important. Always work with your person’s team. You need buy in and trust across the board, including from your person.

This will be hard, but you can do it.

Sending hugs comrade. If you have more specific questions you’d rather not ask out in the open feel free to message me directly.

This is hilarious. Try to do this kind of thing with deep seek and it says something like “it looks like you’re roleplaying a sci-fi game. I’d be happy to play along, but this is not real, it’s important to understand that.”

But that will still miss half the workforce in these states. It needs to be taught alongside the golden rule in kindergarten, that way we’ll cover at least 85% of the workforce.

No no, I have it on good authority that everything is computer.

Insturuction manual

All you can do is what you can do right?

Best thing is to learn what you can, save what you can, and try to do better next time.

I had this system set up for continuously monitoring and adjusting VPD in my grow tent and when you do that and have good control on your nutrient solution deep water culture will give you growth you could never dream of in soil. But… It’s time and effort to get it dialed in because of your ph is off for 24 hours… You can destroy everything just as quick lol.

Excellent setup though, it’s impressive!

I’m not one to yuck your yum. But you achieved bad post status just in the nick of time.

Are shade cloths or row covers an option? I’ve not had issues with heat myself, but I’ve heard those as a solution.

No time to improve infrastructure like the off-season!

“leadership through screaming” sums it up pretty well I think. That only works if you’re super charismatic otherwise, and he’s got no juice.

That’s Vance’s half of it, but the waiting around is part of the lack of charisma.

They are boot lickers not boot lickees.

People just don’t wanna follow these guys. Miller seems like the type to take charge if he thinks he could, but the vibe I get from him is Rob Schneider in Down Periscope.

I think the critical lack of motion destroys them. They are sauceless. Honestly I’d be surprised if we didn’t see the rise of one of his kids in response.

At first I was like this is not a bad post.

But then I was like, this is still not a bad post!

But then I was like, this is a bad post.

My kids absolutely loved when I told them they could just grab snap peas and eat them off the vine. It’s been a few years since then, but I don’t think more than one or two pods ever actually made it into the house.

It’s a pretty magical thing to learn as a child. Food doesn’t just come from the supermarket. You can grow it yourself. I like to sneak in the anti-capitalism wherever I can.

We have a game trail that runs along the tree line near our house, presumably from the river across the road to the farms on the other side of us. The best we’ve been able to do is essentially fence each tree in. If I don’t fence them fast enough or don’t adjust them as the trees grow, the deer will trim them for me lol. They crossed the driveway to the other side of the house to give my plum tree a haircut. Completely ignored the green fruit, but stripped almost all the leaves off because I hadn’t fenced it yet.

Both of our cherries are self pollinating, I can’t say how well it will work out yet as we haven’t really had them in long enough to know yet.

I’ve gotten some really great cantaloupe before, but I lost about half of them to ants. Otherwise I didn’t even do anything special. I suspect that making sure your watering is consistent is going to be the most important thing.

Cherokee purple made me love fresh tomatoes.

I’ve had the best luck with stakes and ties for my tomatoes in the past as opposed to cages. I hear that a Florida(?) weave (two posts with strings horizontally every foot or so between them) works quite well also.

Clearly you don’t need sun or soil to grow food!

Hydroponics can be so satisfying so quickly once you figure out the broad strokes. I’ve been considering setting my tent back up for winter.