My brother is coming to visit in a few days, and I want to come out to him, but I am also absolutely terrified. How did y’all handle coming out to your families?
My brother is coming to visit in a few days, and I want to come out to him, but I am also absolutely terrified. How did y’all handle coming out to your families?
Honestly, I just made them sit (my parents) and asked them to hear me out and not stop me until I’m done talking. Didn’t go as planned but the result was not the worst. Prepared a text to have a guideline.
I had plan B just in case I was kicked out.
My brother and sister already knew since I knew they would be allies.
Having a script, or at least just an outline, sounds like a good idea. I almost don’t know what I would say beyond “so, I’m trans. Please call me [real name] and use she/her pronouns from now on.”
I just have a hard time knowing what info people need to know, but also not wanting to trigger a bad reaction? I don’t know, it always feels like such a dice roll, the uncertainty is so scary.
Honestly. I tried to point out how happier I was now and that I already started my transition. Basically they could not dissuade me. I also pointed out how I hoped they would be alright with my transition. And added that my brother and sister already knew and are supportive.
(And… also that my divorce was not a result of my transition but the affirmation of the self - which led to my transition- … I’ve denied my own identity in my previous relationship and prioritized the happiness of my ex-wife and did what I felt was necessary for the couple to work…)