Gotcha. I don’t think being sociable and open to friendships at work is “looking”. I can also see how it could clash with someone’s boundaries. In any case holding a grudge about being rejected is bad form.
we’re social animals. you can meet friends everywhere. claiming you can’t do it in the one place you spend most of your waking hours is ridiculous. work is probably the most common way people make friends.
I didn’t say you can’t make friends at work. More that you shouldn’t be searching for friends at work.
I’ve made plenty of good friends at work, but it is not the default expectation. You clock in, do your job, clock out, get paid. If you end up working well with someone and become friends, cool.
And that’s the basis of what “professionalism” is. You should be able to work with anyone that’s not an outright jerk, and if you find someone you like working with, that’s even better!
Work isn’t really the place to be searching for friends
Gotcha. I don’t think being sociable and open to friendships at work is “looking”. I can also see how it could clash with someone’s boundaries. In any case holding a grudge about being rejected is bad form.
we’re social animals. you can meet friends everywhere. claiming you can’t do it in the one place you spend most of your waking hours is ridiculous. work is probably the most common way people make friends.
I didn’t say you can’t make friends at work. More that you shouldn’t be searching for friends at work.
I’ve made plenty of good friends at work, but it is not the default expectation. You clock in, do your job, clock out, get paid. If you end up working well with someone and become friends, cool.
And that’s the basis of what “professionalism” is. You should be able to work with anyone that’s not an outright jerk, and if you find someone you like working with, that’s even better!