I hope this post doesn’t come off as really resentful. I’m not overly stressing the money.
In the past year or so I’ve had old friends ask to borrow a few hundred dollars here or there. Honestly it’s not overly shady as it’s people I’m actively meeting up with, and we’ve known each other for decade(s). And it’s people I’m pretty close with and legit love, so I’m not happy that they’re stressing, so I can toss them a loan.
And when the time comes that they were supposed to pay me back, oh some excuse. I don’t want to be too upset as they’re probably unhappy about the situation as well.
The thing is, it’s friends who own their homes and both partners own a car. I still rent a small flat and I take the bus or train everywhere. I just assume they’re massively in debt to everyone. This is probably a symptom of larger problems in the world.
Not a rant, I can manage.
Oh this is absolutely my philosophy as well. My last friend I gave a bit more than I should because she was just between two jobs. But I’ll survive. I’m not going to struggle with my own rent because of this.
It’s still uncomfortable, i get it 100%. Hope you get some of it back, or at least get to clear the air in a friendly manner!