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36 is the new 96 according to this picture lol
Wow white guys do really age like shit huh?
27
36
Lol, I wanted to get actual ages for these images. Natalie Portman was 19, and Google image search thinks that the dude is a Michael Myers (Halloween) mask.
36Why is the man the older one in the overwhelming majority of age gaps?
Socialization of men in the imperial core is centered on predation and objectification of young women as embodiments of innocence and fragility.
Not really, age gaps are larger outside of the imperial core, with men still being the older partner.
If it is a problem, it’s a global societal one.
For real. I’ve seen 40 year old men with teenagers in Guatemala. That shit’s disturbing.
“He’s not the vector of exploitation, society made him do it”
Right.
society didn’t make them do it, but it did train them to believe that it’s acceptable
both the men in question and society as a whole share in the blame
Well do you think male biology makes them monsters? Individual choices? Careful, that sounds like conservative speak.
I think that people participate consciously in social trends, not unconsciously.
There have been people I’ve been attracted to but have not even flirted with because they were 19 or 20, and it’s important for their social development and balance to have someone to date who’s close to them in age (and a mumber of other things).
There was someone I was reluctant to get involved with because they were 7 years older than me, but that was balanced out by other factors like emotional stability.
When men are dating women much younger than themselves, it means there are fewer women for men of that age to date, and it’s a sort of domino effect where you end up with very young men and very old women being the most alone.
Age gaps are a very close proxy for patriarchy. Less than 4 years and you can write it off as "maybe boys mature a bit slower. Biology defines a range of possibility and a few proclivities, and the shape of society does most of the guiding. But what is culture if not the sum total of our personal selections? For a very long time, children have grown up with peer groups mostly just a few years in each direction. I think people know when something crosses outside that dynamic, and I think people know that a relationship like that is more transactional than loving.
WTF why does he have gray hair at 36
The acceptable age gap is half your age plus 7.
I love how people just took this entirely arbitrary made up rule and said “yes this is an absolute moral law and you are ontologically evil predator man if you break it”. Its so silly to me.
nobody thinks this it’s just a general idea people made up, imo it’s too strict for older ages and not strict enough for younger ages. a lot of is common sense, like a 30 yo and a 20 yo is objectively creepy
edit: usually objectively creepy
Thats about the age gap between me and one of my two my girlfriends (the other is much closer to my age). I’m autistic so I relate better to people younger than me and am developmentally delayed “maturity” wise. And I dont have a career or family or anything so I’m not in a significantly different “life stage” than her. Ive been very careful to be sure there’s no power dynamic issues between us and I’m confident there isn’t.
Idk, I’m against hard and fast rules, I agree that large age gaps between adults CAN have problems I just dont think they automatically do, and I think at some point we need to respect the agency of the young adult and stop infantilizing them. My girlfriend gets seriously personally offended by these conversations.
Half your age +7 should be the actual and enforced law across society
Vibe check on a 30yo and 22yo relationship?
Is this considered problematic in the US? It’s pretty common in my area.
It passes, but certain conditions could ruin the vibe. As in, what was the context of you meeting, then dating. The older partner should also try to be aware of how their age and experience could unintentionally give them power over the younger partner.
That’s not a relationships that is a pokemon trainer. So long as they are learning new movies and leveling up it is okay.
learning new movies
Trainer: ok Penelope today we’re watching godfather part 3
Penelope: Penelope! Penelope!
I disagree. Age gaps matter up to 25 from that point onwards do whatever the fuck you want, I do not care if you are dating a 60 year old at 25 whether or not the rule is 37. That’s a stupid rule.
Before 25? Sure it works fine. It doesn’t matter afterwards.
I think half age +7 is pretty fucked up if you’re 100. That 57 year old is not your girlfriend. she’s your nurse.
