

I feel 2 and 5 (with a bit of 6). Also I think EU capital is deeply integrated with Wall Street. I was recently reading Nkrumah’s Neocolonialism where he discusses this integration of western capital already from the 60ies.
Edit: Also Europe is quasi-occupied by the US.
I am struggling with this problem too. My main strategy is to start by questioning the basic belief that Russia aims to go to war and conquer Europe. There is no material basis to believe that this is something Russia wants to do, plans to do, or can do. To achieve this you also need to persuade the person that in the war in Ukraine Russia is acting in response to American/atlanticist provocation. This means distinguishing between the military aggression of Russia with its defensive strategy. If you persuade the person of this, then they need to find a new explanation why the EU wants to increase arm productions. If a defensive war with Russia is not imminent then why do they want to spend money for war?
I think the main problem in addressing this issue and answering this question is acknowledging the content of actually existing imperialism as it is shaped today. This is the biggest hurdle that western leftists have to go through in developing as leftists and Marxists. The person/friend needs to acknowledge that the present state of things is that the “west” has set up a concrete world order such that it (primarily its capitalist class) exploits the rest of humanity, but right now this capitalist class is worried this arrangement is weakening. Imperialism is not an abstraction (that the west but also China and Russia engage in) but a concrete reality. When western leaders (be it Europeans, or Americans) talk about “beating” or “defeating” China or Russia, this should not be understood as winning a competition among equals (whether in the battlefield or in the markets) but as beating back to submission subordinate people who dare to raise their head. This is very difficult to convince people in the west, because the real content of western propaganda is to convince them exactly of the opposite, that Putin/Xi are aggressive, dangerous, dictators and not politicians who simply try to improve the position of concrete classes in their societies (and this is where the discussions on free speech, citizens rights, LGBTQ+/minority rights are used as instruments of imperialism). Just so happens today I saw this article from Jason Hickel that is on this theme especially about China. If they are convinced of this, then you need to persuade them that China/Russia not only never claim that they wants to take the role the west has today, but they simply cannot for concrete material reasons.
This is my experience with your problem. Many of the readings suggested in this thread are excellent and useful and engage in the things my answer is summarizing.