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  • Ah, yes, lying to your face for multiple years over a legitimate concern is exactly what a strong relationship foundation looks like. /s

    You say you need to forgive and forget, but that puts the onus on you to do all the heavy emotional lifting. They are the ones who messed up. They are who needs to step up to continuously demonstrate that they have changed. If you choose to stay consider acknowledging and navigating with eyes wide open instead of brushing it under the rug of blanket forgiveness.

    You call him an angel, but do remember that Lucifer/the devil was also once an angel.

    Trust your gut and move on. Death by 1000 papercuts is still death. The trust with him is already gone because of their actions and literally years long deceit. If they cared about you, they would have already made you the priority and honored/validated your concerns about their ‘friends’ for the last two years. Not just when they can’t cover their tracts anymore (you moving in together) and hope they have you cornered/worn down enough for you to give in easily to their faults. If they cared they wouldn’t gaslight you into thinking you’re crazy/jealous over something that ACTUALLY happened. Do not let them sway you with this sunk cost fallacy. Take your efforts and energy to where they are appreciated. You deserve to be treated better. They know it and your stomach knows it.











  • plzExplainNdetail@slrpnk.nettome irl@lemmy.worldmeirl
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    9 months ago

    -The comic literally states that he should smile more and that is a demand on how he should be. If he wanted to smile he would.

    -The angry face is a thing that I acknowledged and agreed with, and said I had experience with in my first comment. Please re-read for better comprehension.

    -My sentence"…even if just in passing" implies the inclusion of someone who you may not otherwise interact with. Strangers who talk to you are inherently in a more intimate category than strangers who don’t talk/interact to you.

    -Saying that the people in the situations given are in positions akin to predator and prey is an apt analogy. It is not saying someone turns into a bear and the other a fish. There are many shifts of power during conversations and not acknowledging the natural and situational power dynamics does everyone a disservice.

    I never once said that someone’s looks were the reason they were the predator/prey in a situation.