I try to name unconnected things until I’m interrupted by a different thought, then when I realize I’ve gone off I play the unconnected naming game again. Doesn’t matter if there is a connection. Apparently this disorganized thinking is similar to sleep thoughts and can help get your brain in the mood for sleeping.

Example: sheep, glass, shelf, sock, alien, whisker, etc

Neither of these are popular enough to be on the scale of LoTR, but in terms of atmosphere and detail:

Hollow Knight - my absolute favorite thing about it is each NPC has its own voiced language recorded, babbling in the background as you read the dialogue.

Subnautica (the first one) - shitting myself with each new experience is something I’ll always cherish. Highly recommend just playing without looking into the gameplay or plot. Has elements of exploring, resource gathering, base building, psychological horror (not graphic, just tense scenarios), sneaking.

If only I could play subnautica for the first time again. Such an incredible atmosphere. Another one of my favorites is Hollow Knight.

Preview to entice the lazy - here’s text only from the link above (there are several links within this text in the original):

Simple things you can do to grow the PR movement:

Donate to proportional representation advocacy, AisB, or PR supporting parties.
Subscribe and post to the !fairvote@lemmy.ca community.
Educate: A Simple Guide to Electoral Systems.
Follow: List of social media accounts for Canadian Democracy.
Consume only Canadian Owned and Operated Media.
Vote and encourage others to vote every opportunity you can!
Share this list with others!

Also see: We must keep advocating for proportional representation. If PR dies, so does Canadian democracy as we know it. FPTP is already pushing us toward a two-party system, just like the USA.

I’d guess they’re stating that the semi-developed countries with high density populations and high rates pollution may not consider cycling infrastructure on their list of city planning priorities

Definitely go see a doctor anyway. Whatever the issue is, it is affecting important aspects of your life (completing your degree to securing a career in an area that might interest you long enough to find meaningful work that may or may not be related to your degree). I’ve found work is usually not as constantly intense as university was for me. If you can find some methods that get you through the rest of university, life will get much easier after.

Joining a club related to my degree helped me meet people in my classes which had so many flow on effects. It helped me stay interested in the degree, helped me notice when other people start their assignments, gave me a heads up how difficult and how long it would take, helped me be social which helped me relax and recharge, helped me ask questions I might have spent sleepless hours on trying to figure out by myself, and the club deadlines made artificial deadlines for assignments.

It might be a big ask, but if you don’t know of any clubs reach out to your professors and ask if they know of any projects that help contextualize the material you’re learning into the real world. That way it won’t just be about abstract concepts. Real applications might make it more relatable, and if you’re interested it miiiight help you start and finish those assignments.

Uni is an overwhelming time for many people so don’t feel like you’re the only one falling behind. See if your uni has a student wellness center. They’ll have some resources for you to draw help from.

Another aspect you’ve brought up that might be affecting how you relate to the world is your upbringing. I wonder if it might be worthwhile ruling out cPTSD (complex PTSD) which can present similarly to ADHD. Some of my problems are due to ADHD but are exacerbated by my cPTSD due to growing up with emotionally neglectful parents. The terminology makes it sound like a big deal but it’s just words for concepts that have established methods to help with your specific struggles. There are billions of people on this planet raised in all sorts of environments. Hopefully you can take comfort in the fact that your situation is not that unique and there’s likely to be a well trodden path out of this hole. The fundamentals are to be kind to yourself and look after your basic physical and emotional needs. However saying so isn’t as easy as recognizing and doing. Building small habits for taking care of your basic human needs like EXERCISE, NUTRITION, SLEEP, and things that RELAX you, will help balance your schedule and feel ready to tackle uni assignments. I truly believe everyone could benefit from some type of therapy. Remember, just because there’s a name for things you’re experiencing doesn’t mean you’re fucked up. It just gives you a better roadmap for how to navigate out of it.

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Neat, same thing happens to me but didn’t know there was a treatment available! What medication is it?

Thank you for educating a non-American

I can’t help but wonder if this is an assignment to “clear the wait list” for if/when Mangione gets convicted? I don’t quite understand the system but it seems many people on death row spend so many years waiting for the bureaucratic processes to complete before their lives are taken.

I don’t think I have borderline personality disorder but this relationship spiraling is definitely a similar pattern. Might be a similar belief of feeling defective in some way and self sabotaging relationships to maintain that believe.

Oh damn, same. What should I search to read more about this? Mentioned to my therapist that this is a pattern of mine but it was tangential to some other stuff so we didn’t end up processing it specifically. Is BPD referring to bipolar or borderline personality disorder?

Who reported on this? The J is uppercase as well…

What if the answers are yes to these?

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And “I Want to Break Free”, my all time favorite. Close second, “Don’t Stop Me Now”. Oh and “Another One Bites the Dust” for the vibes.

What specs should I be looking for to vet the quality?

Soursweet - kind and wholesome YouTuber with a soothing voice. Surprising combo of entertaining and cozy vibes watching his edited sessions of playing DayZ, a PvP zombie survival shooter.

ProcessX - Japanese YouTube channel that’s shows manufacturing and crafting processes. No talking but English subtitles are available. Lots of satisfying manufacturing noises with soft classical music in the background.

Try to keep your resume to 1 page. Write a cover letter if you have experiences that didn’t have a place on your resume but are relevant to the job you’re applying for. There are templates online for cover letters and resumes that you can borrow from. Don’t go too fancy with the resume styling. Just a clean, readable layout.

A psychology thing I use to put the reader in my shoes and make me seem capable (because I am them as they read) is that I describe in detail my responsibilities with action words ending in “ing”. Example, if I was a waiter in the past and applying for another customer facing role, I could write “- served food and drinks. Stocked consumables.”, or I could highlight my empathy and social awareness and time management:

• promptly greeting customers as soon as they walk in
• creating an environment where they can enjoy their meal and company
• adjusting my service based on their individual needs
• timing tasks to keep on top of restocking and cleaning while prioritizing customers

It feels weird to write “ing” verbs at first but it makes a difference. Good luck, keep practicing, it takes ages but try to tweak your resume for each individual job you apply for. Dont be afraid to follow up with the ones you really want - calling is unheard of these days but if you phone and sound friendly, ask to speak to the hiring manager, mention you’re keen on this position and would love the chance to interview for it, that will probably put you at the top of the pile. They don’t want to waste their own time interviewing people that are only half interested in the job.

If you get an interview, obv being confident is great but if that’s not you, it’s ok to be nervous. They know you will be. Just focus on giving coherent answers. Practice the STAR method to answer their questions. Explain the Situation, Task, Action, Result. Keep it relatively short and to the point. Example: tell us about a time where you handled friction at work.

Situation - I was working on a project that required external collaboration. Task - I needed a colleague to give a timeline on a task of theirs but they were hesitant to commit to a date since this was not a typical priority for them. Action - I empathized that this was an extra workload to them and asked questions to understand what their biggest roadblock was. I then offered a few options that had different approaches but still achieved both our goals. Result - We came to an agreement on priorities, clarified requirements, and both delivered our projects on time. This person also ended up being a valuable contact and we often consulted each other in future tasks.

Try to think of at least one question to ask them at the end, such as “what do new employees typically find surprising after they start?”. Do a bit of research on the company, even if just for small talk as you’re walking to the meeting room. It’s not a good look if you have no idea what the company does.

Crackpot idea - if you’re both already paying for therapy individually and had limited success with couples therapy (assuming the couples therapist was not one of your therapists), maybe your therapists be open to having a session with the four of you?

You already have rapport with them and they know your individual histories so could save a lot of time setting the stage that way. Would be interesting seeing what the therapists would say to each other. Or if meeting isn’t possible, maybe could ask your therapists if they’d contact each other to help gain insight?

Sorry you’re going through this. She sounds like she’s being callous.

If you do decide there’s a shred of hope and desire to saving this relationship and all you can change is yourself, then I can offer what has helped my partner and I. Building a habit of affection without the expectation of sex. As in, not lingering too long waiting for the other to “signal the go ahead” for sex. Just a quick but meaningful hug or kiss when nearby, then going back to minding our own business. Also keeping on top of the chores and decisions. Partial contributor to our dead bedroom was because there is nothing more unsexy than thinking of all the things that still need doing. If there’s been a dynamic that she feels like she’s had to run the household (making sure chores are done, meal planning, groceries are bought and put away, social things organized, birthdays are remembered, etc) then she might feel like your mother. And obviously women are biologically wired not to be attracted to their children.