Agree, and a slight tangent, but I feel like it’s a closely related set of poor behaviours.

It’s exhausting to go into spaces that are supposed to be centered around support and uplifting the community, and be faced with people tearing down other people “because they have [mental illness I diagnosed myself].”

Why speculate? An asshole is an asshole. Deal with what is actually there, don’t demonize some random community and pretend what that person does is somehow related to it.

People repeatedly pretending some random disorder is “the reason” that person was mean to them, perpetuates stigma that leads to straight up just hurting people… people who are just struggling to survive with a nontypical brainset in a world that hates divergence, people who did nothing wrong to anyone.

I feel both simultaneously very often. Always overwhelmed, but incredibly painfully restless with constantly doing self-care catch-up, and being unable to go anywhere or do things I like doing. Maddening.

Been struggling with feeling like there is no zone to be okay in, lately.

I’ve found with my ADHD friends, as well as my (autistic, bipolar, ?maybe adhd?) self, that “doing something for others” is somehow easier than doing it just for myself. That might put into perspective why it felt easier to make meals before a divorce. Feel like there’s a way to hack that quirk, solo, but haven’t figured it out exactly yet.

Coming a bit from the opposite angle-- I haven’t eaten well for my entire life, and I’m trying to learn how to create a diet on my own, from scratch.

I rely on a lot of soup. Just cut veggies, freeze them. Dump them all in broth when I have energy. Spices are “whatever feels right.” Cutting and cooking does not need to be on the same day. Very simple, gets me veggies, reliable. It’s something to build from. Does not require much planning.

Neutrally: Do you feel like your comment is a mature, adult response?

I’m a bit curious-- your hobby seems to be attempting to antagonize others on the internet. Do you have anyone in your life that feels like a support system? Are they someone that does not hurt you?

If your only support system consists of people who talk like you do, to you-- please try to get out of your current situation. It’s a painful place to be. Life can be better.

Honestly, the only thing my anxiety meds have done for me personality-wise is make me feel a lot more like myself.

My NSFW desires are identical! :) …Well, I mean, i’m a lot less anxious about enjoying them fully, so my relationship to them is quite a bit different…

I haven’t had preferences for likes and dislikes being changed. Medication type might matter for that?

Thank you for removing the ragebait post; it makes me optimistic this sub could remain an actually useful support space to people with autism.

I was gonna say “didn’t they create their own instance?”
But if you go there from the sidebar, that appears to be gone, soooo… :s

Freetube instead of youtube,

Thunderbird calendar instead of something like google calendar,

Signal instead of Discord or text,

Tellico for all media lists instead of something like goodreads or online movie or game lists,

Obsidian or Joplin for notes and organizing creative pursuits

You can sort of block publishers/devs, if they have their own “steam page.” If you click on the publisher/dev in the listings underneath review scores, if it takes you to an actual dedicated page you can click the gear icon on the right and click “ignore this creator.”

This does not completely block them but it has them show up in less places (or are greyed out in some places.) Basically they can pop kinda randomly up in sales when steam forgets to add that, or greyed out in the tabs section on the front page (new and trending, top sellers, popular upcoming tabs)

It’s not the cure-all “erase EA” button I’m sure we’d all prefer, but it does help a little.

agree. my own thoughts:

if a therapist is ever telling you what you “can’t” do in interpersonal relationships, they’re not doing their job. their job is to guide you towards you building your own best life, to find your own answers in a safe environment, …it is not commanding you to do stuff because they think it’s “right”

you should be on board with every decision made about you.

gravity falls

cryptid energy

People who do this professionally, or even as a volunteer, receive training for a reason. It is likely one could hurt more than help, despite the best intentions.

Maybe try signing up for a hotline? They’ll give you the training required to at least give a solid attempt as well as more rationally limit the amount of people you feel obligated to handle.

The dog has swimmer’s syndrome.

As far as anyone can tell, the original is from a tiktok animal “funny” explotation/abuse account.

They have several repeat videos of this dog doing the exact same behaviour, they seem to keep them in tiny enclosures, and keep feeding it milk. Milk is not good for dogs, especially not that much. There’s no guarantee that they feed the dogs regularly or humanely.

It’s difficult to actually tell context because of the nature of these types of channels. Labradors can have food aggression, especially pound dogs, that needs essentially “dog therapy” over time to abate. Considering animal abuse is rampant on the channel in general, I don’t have high hopes here. The channel posting this specific dog over and over does not give context.

The last few videos with those two dogs does show some progress with the labrador starting to gain walking ability, so maybe they are trying to rehabilitate, but they’re still giving them insane amounts of milk. They don’t look bone thin, exactly. Again, hard to say with no context.

If there’s an original source with more information, chances are it’s on some website somewhere in chinese, which can be difficult to convince browsers in english to find :/ Language barrier. I’ve spent a few hours looking, including trying reverse image search. I’ve seen this a few times and memeified animal abuse bothers me, so wanted to know if it’s… not. If someone knows actual context with source links, I’d like to know.

I literally just found out yesterday you can utilize a virtual second monitor with (some) split screen multiplayer games to stream the “second screen” to a friend, giving you a multiplayer experience that you could previously only have with online connections, having totally separate screens with streaming which blows my mind, and this comes out today rather than having to try to figure out how to set it all up myself. Sick.

At least on my instance, the top right hand corner on all thumbnails has a little symbol that shows if it is a “link picture” or an “expandable picture.”

The link symbol looks like a box with an arrow, the picture symbol is the generic white outline hills and sun symbol it seems like many places use for images.

Doesn’t really answer your question directly, but it might help?

I have no interest in further talking to someone who brings up what the article counters with zero counterpoints, and just insists the original point progressively louder.

(Edit: Total comment rehaul to better explain my position, but similar sentiment.)

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If I wrote out a list of things I am interested in regarding my appearance that are gendered by society, I would think I was “a girl.” However, in practice, it was incredibly bad for me and being forced as such was a constant drain on me.

None of these stories are proof, but slowly realizing the sheer number of them from my past did indicate exploring was worthwhile:

• I could not see myself growing into an old woman. I used to think that was only because I did not think I would live long enough to be as such.
  But the fact is, when first asked about it, the thought of growing into an old man actually sounded a bit nice.
• I told every boyfriend I have ever had that I “might be trans” and asked them if they’d still stay with me as a man. It was very serious and very nonserious all at the same time.
• I clung to masculine presentation, even if it often still felt wrong, because “masculine woman” felt closer to the “femme genderfluid man” I somewhat unconsciously wanted to be than “feminine woman.”
• When I first played a man in a TTRPG game, it was incredibly fun in a way that is hard to describe. Something like, just… comfortable, for the first time.
• In preschool I demanded that the teachers use a male name and refer to me in character with male pronouns. This was not a one-off occurrence. I was very upset when they did not comply.
• When I was older, when people mistook me for a man I would feel relief. When they “corrected” themselves I would go back to being miserable.
• People using “ma’am” on me would make me extremely uncomfortable. Hearing the word “she” used for me made me oddly angry.
• I hated people looking at me and perceiving me, and, worst of all, desiring me.

All of these were difficult to see at the time. Difficult to see all at the same time. It is hard to tell if you are miserable when you are constantly miserable. It takes perspective to put it all together. It takes self-examination, experimentation, experience. You are stuck in your own head, after all.

I did not feel like I was in the wrong body. I felt like I was trapped in expectations of what I could do to my body.

I won’t regret any of it even if I suddenly decide to “transition back.” My life is a journey and I will do whatever feels right for me. My body is my own. It’s done me so much good to be able to explore who I am.

My suggestion to those questioning is generally to “try out” your gender of choice somewhere completely inconsequential. Video games, a temporary account, etc. Quietly following trans spaces for a while can give some perspective as well.

I don’t care if I “know for certain” that I’m trans. I think trying to answer that question as some kind of solid certainty can often run counter to the entirety of being trans.

I’m happier in a testosterone-based system, I am comfortable in a way that I never was, and life feels like I have a future now. I made changes that made my life better, and only changes that made my life better.

Trans just happens to be an accurate label. Labels are tools, shortcuts in communication. Not prisons.

Is it not violent for a child to go to bed hungry in the richest country in the world? I think that is violent. But that type of violence is so institutionalized that it becomes a part of our way of life. (…) And that again is because the oppressor makes his violence a part of the functioning society. (…)

Now, I think the biggest problem with the white liberal in America, and perhaps the liberal around the world, is that his primary task is to stop confrontation, stop conflicts, not to redress grievances, but to stop confrontation. (…) once we see what the primary task of the liberal is, then we can see the necessity of not wasting time with him. His primary role is to stop confrontation. Because the liberal assumes a priori that a confrontation is not going to solve the problem. (…)

I think that history has shown that confrontation in many cases has resolved quite a number of problems (…) In many cases, stopping confrontation really means prolonging suffering.

The liberal is so preoccupied with stopping confrontation that he usually finds himself defending and calling for law and order, the law and order of the oppressor. (…)

You cannot engage with the article in good faith without addressing the point that the system engages in passive but pervasive constant violence against minorities.

When you say you do not want to legitimize violence, you ignore their point that violence is nonetheless happening, and will not change through politely requesting those in charge, currently enabling or actively doing the violence, to stop it please. They are actively rewarded by inflicting violence on others through material gains. They have no good reason to stop, since it is already clear pesky morals are not getting in the way.

You state “we should just get rid of exceptions,” but you have no actual proposal for convincing those with no reason to be convinced, e.g. the people in power. We are not in a void where everyone starts off on equal footing. We are in a world where pervasive violence is quietly carried out every minute of every day.

Police violence, overseas wars, cutting minorities off from basic needs, these are all things that quiet lawful protests and “voting really hard” have not budged.

Your argument is not at all engaging with this article’s content.

My point is less to convince you to suddenly engage in good faith than to point out to onlookers how you are not. My suggestion to those onlookers is to read the actual article themselves, as it makes for some interesting reflection, regardless of agreement with it.