Are “being a femboy” and “being a trans man” mutually exclusive?

Nah, not at all, some trans men do identify as femboys or even twinks. Personally I don’t get too into specific labels like that but I don’t care if others see me that way. It can actually be the opposite of dysphoric, because the transphobic types will assume I’m a man who’s trying to be femme or transitioning to a woman and emphatically call me sir like to remind me I’m a man, lol.

Do people like, openly treat you like that and acknowledge it, or is it more subtle than that?

Sometimes openly, yeah, I’ve had a coworker ask me if I was gay after weeks of like clearly wanting to say something. But usually it’s more subtle, like in the way some guy in a group will talk to the other guys different from the way I get spoken to, or they share looks between each other like “this fuckin guy, eh.” Or they’ll joke about how I might need help lifting something because of how lanky I am. I’m obviously the bookish nerdy type not into sports and going to the gym, and I don’t have a big build.

places like comic book shops or sports teams or garages/autohobby shops. I guess like, not places that specifically exclude women, but places where its more common to see groups of men

In my experience the treatment isn’t that bad. It’s like any time you’re out among people you don’t know, people are just polite. Maybe if I was on a sports team or went to the gym a lot it’d be different.

Thanks. Yeah trans men get so much shit, I don’t even wanna get into it… What would you consider a traditional male space? The only place I can think of is the gym, but women go there too.

Either way… I don’t really go out much though, tbh. I’m mostly a loner, just go to work, read books, play video games. Sometimes go out to a concert if I have the money. I don’t have any IRL friends.

In my experience, guys just see me as some gay femboy instead of a trans man. I don’t really come out unless it becomes relevant or I meet another queer person.

So if I just use the desktop app and not the browser extension then I’m good?

the only frontend alternative i know is imginn but i think you can only enter an account name, not a link to a specific post :/

of all the problems facing humanity that we could be solving right now, they’re focused on gay sex and trans people… fuckin priorities.

please don’t keep a personal diary in google docs…

my family still got our ancestors’ furniture 😤

disclaimer that i’m a transman who’s not nonbinary…

i think we still need these terms, but it’s all in how they’re used. for example when this host says “…unless it’s a part of my journey as a human being” and that’s how i feel it should/could be relevant. sometimes trans people are just shooting the shit and are comfortable enough with each other to talk about their transition journey in this way, especially when describing problems they might have had along the way.

i agree it’s not really something i would share with a nosy cis person or a nosy anyone. but this is like putting an unnecessary blanket restriction on how people should discuss gender when the community is a spectrum and not everyone is uncomfortable with these terms.

I use Heroic more than I use Steam. It comes with a wine manager built in for Proton-GE, and if you have Steam Proton installed it can access that too. I use Proton Plus to get GE-Proton on Steam but I don’t even have to do that for Heroic.

nice

it’s very much a personality thing that has nothing to do with gender

been playing Callisto Protocol since i got it free from the Epic Store a little while back. I’m really enjoying it.

then there’s me who eats them by the handful

I would argue we’ve already got the “semi” part in the present, with the full dystopia on the way

No. Next question.

“bluefox” might’ve been Waterfox

there’s also Ghostery, Floorp, and Zen

I use Mull on mobile

Suspiria (2018)