closet transfem 🫷😒 undercover girl 👈 🥹

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Cake day: December 13th, 2024

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  • girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMisgendering rule
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    5 months ago

    tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though i’m probably not enby).

    she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, it’s not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it won’t raise any suspicions…

    AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol


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    5 months ago

    Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.

    hello from a snowflake who is stuck in the closet, and too fragile to share my pronouns because it forces me to misgender myself and reminds me of how far i am from a life that feels like mine

    i don’t disagree with the they/them-by-default policy (principle of least harm etc), but if you ever find people being less than enthusiastic about it or reluctant to state their pronouns, please consider that there could be other reasons



  • no antidepressants or therapists have ever been enough to heal the damage of a fucked up life

    I feel this… been through several at this point, didn’t really do much for me. I’d keep trying anyway, but I don’t have access right now, so I’m just trying a bunch of stuff to see what will stick.

    Right now I’m giving tonglen a shot. The hard part is getting myself to do it (hello, executive dysfunction!), but so far it seems to be helping a bit. (I recommend checking out that book either way, some interesting ideas in there)