Pete Buttigieg can fuck all the way off.

Are there any LGBTQ resource groups near you? I know the one by me maintains a list of local doctors of various specialties that are supportive and affirming for trans people. And folks there may be able to share doctors they’ve had luck with too.

Yeah, I think that is nice! Hopefully it makes it easier for other parents to see that it is possible to change their minds and become more accepting

Why is it important that she’s open about not being initially accepting? Does she speak about it in a way that encourages other parents to be more immediately accepting?

Who would have guessed!

So you’re telling me I should have a beer and some tofu bites? Twist my arm!

I had a new, unusual, and unpleasant experience - being a closeted trans femme at a bachelor party.

My brother is getting married this weekend, and I am the “best man”. The irony is overwhelming lol. I’m not out to any of my family, nor will I be at any point in the near future. I strongly suspect that coming out to them will mean the end of those relationships (my family are all devout conservative Catholics). But my brother and I are close in age and grew up together, so I’m very happy to have a place of honor in his wedding. It’s just a weird thing, being surrounded by men, who think I am one too.

If anything, the experience has made me so sure that I am not a man. If that’s a representative slice of men my age, then being a man is something I want nothing to do with.

The dissonance of going from being at home, where my wife genders me correctly and I’m starting to come out to friends, to going back to see my family, is jarring.

In addition, I have my estrogen! Which is exciting! I can’t start taking it yet though, because I need to freeze sperm, since my wife and I want to have kids. I’m getting nervous and kind of antsy though - I don’t know how much the whole thing is going to cost, or if my sperm are even healthy, or if it’ll be covered by my insurance. So I’m worried that it’s going to be a whole ordeal, and it’s the only thing holding me back from starting my HRT.

It has been and is going to be a weird period of time, but I’m hoping August will be a little more calm.

Debord?

Oh I didn’t think you were mocking me at all! And I appreciate the encouragement ❤️ for both our sakes, I hope you don’t have to eat your Blahaj! Lol

Thank you 🥰

And yes, trans people who don’t take hormones are still trans and are completely valid! I’m just really hoping that the hormones do end up working out for me, I really want and am excited about all the changes they would bring

I am glad they’ve worked so well for you! 😊 And I am hopeful that they’ll work great for me too. I think part of my anxiety is that I’ll start taking them and then not like how they make me feel, because I’d be sad if I don’t get to transition.

I relate to that too. For a while, I had the mindset of “I don’t really identify with being a man, so I guess I must be non-binary, but I couldn’t be trans, so I may as well just stick with this”. And then I really just kind of put the bare minimum into taking care of myself, because I didn’t really like my appearance.

Yes, I feel that way sometimes. But I try to keep in mind that humans are innately social creatures, and I shouldn’t shut myself off like that. It helps to have pre-planned events with people I know I like, like playing a TTRPG or board game, or volunteering.

Pretty good! I got my estrogen prescription from Planned Parenthood! It was surprisingly easy. The people there were all super nice and really good about my name and pronouns. The only downside was the “protestor” who tried to tell me about other places for healthcare “for women and men” eye roll

Now I just need to figure out how to give myself injections. Slightly nervous about that, since I’ve never done it before and don’t want to fuck up my dose.

That’ll have to wait a little while though, because I’m going on vacation with my wife’s family. Not incredibly excited about that, because while the vacation will be nice, I’m not out to any of them yet. My mother in law is nosy and starting to pry about my shaving, painted nails, long hair etc. And I know the misgendering is going to wear on me, but it’s not their fault. I’m determined to have a good relaxing time as much as possible though!

Pretty good! I’m off of work for the next week, and I got my prescription for estrogen from Planned Parenthood this week. They were super friendly and helpful! Now I just have to learn how to give myself injections lol

There is a dedicated ICD-10 medical code for “eye pecked out by a chicken”. They’re vicious little fuckers.

Thanks :) I love going to the Goodwills in the nicer parts of town, you can find some great stuff there! There are a few near me that are usually good bets

Thanks for the tips! It sounds like a thrifting day is in store for me soon :)

Are there any particular styles I should try to avoid? I guess I’m just worried about giving away that I don’t have a clue what I’m doing lol

Thanks! Yeah, I’m definitely going to need to work slowly, since I am losing weight (10 down, 90 to go!). Buying a whole new wardrobe as I gained weight was a pain.

Are there any particular items that might go better with a larger body type, to help me look slimmer or make my silhouette look more feminine?

Yeah, I have never had good luck with Amazon clothing, the once or twice I’ve tried, for exactly that reason - terrible quality, and terrible sizing. The breadth of options seems appealing, but any time I go on Amazon any more it just feels like wading through sponsored slop to try to find something worthwhile, clothing or otherwise