A silly questioning transfem, all pronouns are ok.

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Cake day: July 7th, 2026

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  • I was more sympathising with the poster, but yeah that’s about it.

    I’m not gonna engage mentally with anything from .ml since from experience it really isn’t worth it. Taking a wander on .ml was pretty much the most confusing thing I’ve ever experienced when I first tried out lemmy, I mean their ukraine community is all you need to see, really is kind of another level of closed off from reality. Either you’re out of the loop or you agree with them, but .ml being based around a (relatively) singular unquestioning belief system isn’t healthy.








  • Oh lol, then I guess it’s cool that helped you figure it out. I’ve been meaning to compliment someone at uni (they seemed nervous) but I missed the chance, I’ll be sure to do so when we start again in September.

    About my hair, it’s naturally thick and curly, so I’m not sure if this will work for everyone, but it normally gets very frizzy if I don’t do anything with it, so my Mum taught me to use hair mousse, and I’ve settled on one of the strongest ones that Wella (the company) makes, other than that I don’t really take care of my hair as well as I could be, just that and re-doing it every 2-3 days to stop it from knotting. If you know Tony Statovci then mine is just his if it were shorter, although he ties his hair up a lot so you’ll have to see it when he has it down.

    Thanks again I really appreciate all the support everyone is giving me. <3







  • Some people can really just be mean. Compliments are usually more likely to go unsaid in my experience, I had one person berate me over my hair throughout my last year of secondary school, and never once had been complimented, 2 years of sixth form go by, the entire time thinking people hated my hair, only to hear second hand that someone in my class thought my hair was “beautiful” when being reminded of me, the person telling me this also agrees, and around the same time someone in the street wanted to know what hair product I was using. So safe to say people 100% think nice things about you all the time, but for whatever reason refrain from saying them.





  • I mean I say I’m genderfluid but the “fluid” of choice would probably be closer to tar, since while I can sometimes feel more masc, I’ve never once felt good about my masculine features, at the very best just mildly annoyed.

    And yeah I can end up feeling really good under the right conditions. Since I’m lucky to have grown out my hair prior, I remember covering my face one time (in an attempt to hide certain facial features like my eyebrows), and tricking myself for only just a second, haven’t been able to re-do it but I literally felt it in my heart at the time.

    Thank you for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it! This has all been really affirming.