Yeah, we update piefed pretty regularly, because it’s changing so quickly. Kaity is also working on some stuff that we’re going to push back to the main piefed branch as well

She wears a placid, pretty expression

That is not how I’d describe her expression. To me, that expression looks smug/condescending/knowing

We ran out of space! All sorted now

We had someone apply a minute before you posted this, which I’ve now approved. If that was you, you should be able to sign in with it now.

Will look in to the error.

Unless they’re robots, trans women are biological women, being that they’re women and they’re “biological”

All fixed now!

Hrrmm, yep, I’ve replicated that. Will look in to it!

Don’t talk about whales

I haven’t banned you from any communities. I instance banned you. Which I did, because you implied that Arab folk are all sexist.

Which comes on the back of previous comments removed for transphobia, insults and posting swastikas.

I’ll be instance banning you again now.

You really need to listen to what you’re saying.

You’re arguing for the right to deny people their own identities in their own safe spaces whilst claiming that somehow, the real issue is letting queer folk choose the language that works best for them.

t would be fine if you said "He was kind of pushy about trying to make his point and although he clearly wasn’t coming from any hostile place,

He was repeatedly and deliberately gatekeeping people’s identities. I don’t know how to make that any clearer to you.

Whether or not any given person is a troll, it’s not an excuse to make people’s identities a reward for good behaviour.

If you decide that taking away peoples identities “because they’re a troll” is ok, then you’re telling the gender diverse people around you that you don’t see them for who they are, and that you’re just pretending to accept them as long as they behave in ways you find appropriate. Normalising the idea that we can decide other peoples identities is literally the goal of trolls, and so when you see a troll and decide that’s a good reason to invalidate people, you’re feeding the troll, and hurting the gender diverse folk around you.

I will respect a trolls identity, even as I ban them, because opening the door to deciding which identities are valid does nothing but hurt vulnerable people.

This was all explained to PJ, several times, and he doubled down. And tripled down. Whilst explicitly denying people’s identities.

He was coming from a hostile place, and refused to leave it, even when it was explained to him.

I mean… aren’t you positioning yourself as the arbiter of other folks’ validity and identity?

The fact that you’re equating the creation of protective rules in explicitly safe spaces as being morally identical to gatekeeping other folks identities makes me doubt your intentions. If you genuinely believe they’re the same thing, you’ve got a lot of work to do. And if you don’t believe they’re the same thing, but are comparing them to win an internet discussion, then you’re the one stirring up drama…

Is blahaj drama free?

I hope not.

We’re an explicitly protective, safe space for a minority group that is actively targeted by governments, political institutions, churches, and bigots in general

So of course we create drama. Bigots will make sure of it.

He was banned from blahaj for literally just showing up and saying reasonable things. If that’s against the rules of your instance

Nah. He was banned for repeatedly, deliberately, and knowingly breaking the rules. Whether or not you think gatekeeping someones identity is acceptable, blahaj.zone has rules against it, and his response to it was to deliberately break the rules and stir up shit.

A lot of people feel like, if they think something reasonable, they’re allowed to say it, and it’s weird and controlling for some other person to say that opinion is the incorrect opinion and demand that they not say it within certain spaces.

Tough shit. When someones “reasonable” opinion involves positioning themselves as the arbiter of other folks validity and identity, they’re doing harm. When they choose to repeatedly and deliberately do that in a safe space for those folk, they’re repeatedly and deliberately doing harm and breaking the rules.

All of which to say, even if you’re a gatekeeper like him, who thinks that you have the right to tell other people their own identities, if you come in to a blahaj community and do it, you’re breaking blahaj rules. If you choose to knowingly and repeatedly do it, whilst then complaining about it in various meta spaces, then you’re breaking rules and stirring up drama.

Drag is banned from blahaj. Gatekeeping people’s identities and pronouns is still against the rules.

And if it was a single comment, you’d have a point, but it was ongoing, repeated and deliberate arguments in a space that had explicit rules against what he was doing, rules that he understood. And rather than following the rules, or posting in other communities, he brought it up over and over again, arguing that he has the right to decide other people’s identities.

And when banned for it, he made sure to keep adding flames to the fire.

Whatever else he is, he is not drama free.

Someone hexed those cookies

Same as the rest of the fediverse

A trans person is even more aware of how shitty a situation that is, which means, when they tell you their name, they’re aware of the consequences and are telling you what feels appropriate for them. The best thing you can do is trust them, and follow their lead.

Feel free to remain sus :)

Yep. And you’d be right to be sus if I used a new account with little history to make implications about another user

We don’t require email verification. There is no email. This seems to be a stubborn bug to iron out though, because I would swear the PieFed dev fixed it…