RiotDoll [she/her, she/her]

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Cake day: May 28th, 2024

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  • i am a trans woman, i do understand this and have to make decisions about what i have the energy and ability re: safety and mental health to get into with people all the time

    i have, and i guess i should make this clear, also seen people just abdicate when they didn’t have to. I have the information necessary to say that - and i’ve seen it more than once, and it’s frustrating because this doesn’t get better if the average dumbass doesn’t understand

    apologies, maybe you’ve seen this sentiment weaponized, but that’s not what this is.



  • it’s not on everyone to teach, but i wither a bit every time somebody is like “i dont have time to educate you” or otherwise abdicates the sponsibility, to favor whining and being shitty. like, somehow one is expected to take in a position on one’s own volition, when life seriously almost never works like that - which is to say, life isn’t just creating people who are curious and seeking understanding outside of the lane society violently etched into their brains, and if you can teach something better, you do your own ideals a disservice if you refuse to in favor of feeling angry without being productive about the problem

    certain positions must be exhausting to explain. I’m not witholding empathy for that. But the work is the work. If you want society to look the way you want and expect, you better be willing to teach
























  • i invoke my dead name in the past tense to quote people talking to/at me, but otherwise i refer to past self as my chosen name.

    using the new name is more respectful, helps you learn the name yourself, helps you associate that person with the new name, and using the deadname just means you’re more likely to use it in even less justifiable contexts.

    I dont even hate my dead name! I made it my middle name! but absolutely still… use the new name.