I agree with that, the point was to say that misgendering someone and presuming gender identity is never a good thing.

I believe as others have pointed out the term you are looking for is Salmacian, it isn’t the same thing as being intersex. It is an altersex identity in which people have unconventional genital configurations, usually it’s when someone wishes to have a penis and a vagina at the same time, but it’s not limited to that.

You can ban directly using Tesseract and if mod actions federate there it’ll ban them, and it’ll also remove their comments if you tick remove submissions. I’ve done it before for users banned from Blahaj but commenting in our communities.

I still burn CDs for my dad all the time, (I also have a few of them for myself too) since our cars have CD players in them, and while I usually play Music through the Aux it’s good to have CDs for when there’s spotty connection and nothing good on the Radio.

I just like wearing cute clothes and having long hair. I don’t get turned on by it (I don’t really get turned on by anything really). Not a fetish, but I also don’t have gender dysphoria, I just like being cute.

When did I say that? I said we should consider defederation as a community because transphobic views of an admin are risky and may lead to inaction towards transphobia on that server. That’s the whole reason why we defederated feddit.uk before this, which is why I wanted feedback on this, from the local Blahaj.zone community.

The same way that having code on your computer written by stallman doesn’t mean you support him or his views. Unless the creator backdoored it to do what they want against your authority, it doesn’t mean a whole lot.

How? It’s free and open source software. This sentiment just seems dumb. Where’s the implication that using free and open-source software like Lemmy means you need to support the devs or federate with their server? I see no such rule, and it’s not like they can stop or disallow you from using it (nature of open-source).

Anyone can host an instance and choose to run it however they like, the devs have no control in how or why people use Lemmy. It seems like a lot of people have trouble grasping this concept.

I can promise that it is not being ignored here. It is being considered fully for the transphobic garbage that it is, which is why Nutomic is banned instance-wide since 9 months ago when his DM leaked.

You probably work for meta or musk or reddit trying to kill the project.

Ah yes, because bad-jacketing users is totally a way to make you seem credible. Fuck off dude, this is a trans friendly space. Who do you think you are coming here telling trans people they are “just being reactionary” then sealioning and bad-jacketing users when they call you out on your bullshit.

defederating from instances you don’t like

And that’s where you lost me since I made this post highlighting a problem with management of the server expressing harmful transphobic sentiment and now you are trying to make it out like these are petty personal opinions.
We’ve defederated from servers which allow or don’t care about transphobia already, feddit.uk is an existing example. The fact that you are dismissing the problem like this shows you don’t understand why we have such hostility towards transphobic sentiment or just don’t care.

Liars ARE monsters. Maybe not like literally, but they are monsters nonetheless.

They’re doing what many TERFs do, trying to cover up their bigotry with politeness and trying to sound like it’s about logic or discussing the meaning of things. Trying to make their transphobia seem acceptable. Then they say trans people are unreasonable when they get called out or banned for their bigotry.

This what you are doing here is called sealioning and you need to stop. You were denying the reality of transphobia and the struggles of trans people and you got called out for it. You need to take the feedback that you did something wrong and check yourself, they don’t owe you an explanation of their identities and experiences. You are an outsider in this safe-space for trans people.

I agree, it’s one thing to ask a question, it’s another thing to make assertions like this. The latter of which is very inappropriate and disrespectful since this is a local discussion on Blahaj policies.

Yeah that’s why I decided to make the thread sooner rather than later. I wanted to get the community’s opinions on it and see what they think. I do think there is the risk of Nutomic and others refusing to action transphobic rhetoric similar to his own if it seems “respectful” and “logical”.

Lemmy.today has already been defederated from blahaj.zone because they had some nasty spam and transphobia problems.