Actually yeah here’s one, my partner a few days after I started coming out to her:
“You know you’ve always talked about desperately wanting to remove all your body hair, like ever since we were first together (16 years ago)”. I was like “Have I? Oh yeah I guess I have”.
I’m literally amazed at my inability to have seen this stuff earlier. I keep remembering stuff like this that just has me looking back like “you dumb egg”.
sooo much stuff that just suddenly is so easy to explain
Someone posted a meme a while ago about the “I dont have gender dysphoria” to “oh that’s what gender dysphoria is and I have a whole lot of it” pipeline. A lot of stuff in my life does make much more sense when viewed with that lens.
Hey no apology necessary! I’m guessing we might be at a similar stage of things because I keep reading stuff, thinking “hey that’s exactly what I’m going through” then looking at the name at seeing you. So hey girl! DM me if you ever want to chat <3.
Its ridiculous at how good even the slightest bit of affirmation feels in these early stages. I downloaded Vinted to buy girl stuff and used my chosen name and I guess that was the first time I had done that and I got an automatic email that was like “hi Domi” and I melted. I look forward to being self assured enough to go back to being immune to shitty corpo marketing but today is not that day.
That’s me now. Before it was just a sort background hum of self hatred that i had pretty much learned to tune out. Now I’m actively trying to transition it feels a lot more intense and urgent. But even though it gets bad sometimes I’m also getting a lot of gender joy for the first time in my life and that feels wonderful and hopeful.
Thankyou for sharing your wisdoms with me. O Captain! My Captain! 🫡. I really do appreciate your thoughts and perspective.
Thank you <3. Being called sister just made me feel very nice inside. I am very lucky in having some amazing friends and a supportive partner, but I have been scared to reach out to irl groups because I’ve really internalised the idea that those spaces aren’t for me. I have some really dear close trans friends that have been hugely supportive but they live in other countries and we see eachother only maybe once per year.
I’ve recently been at some IRL events where I’ve introduced myself to new people (isn’t it so nice to do that with a new person and they dont have to re-adjust any pre-conceived opinion about you and they just go “Hi Domi, nice to meet you” and it’s no big deal? :)).
I am learning that a lot of those imposter fears that have held me back are not reflected when I actually do talk to people in trans spaces IRL. Even though I’m not yet very femme-presenting, everybody so far has made me feel welcome and valid. The same way you have here.
It’s nice here
This is so relatable, thank you for posting.
Tyvm <3
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I just took it all off fairly recently. I am working toward the more permenant solutions, but just getting rid of the werewolf hair felt amazing. Hell even sitting in the bath shaving my legs to maintain things afterwards feels amazing because that just so femme coded, and compared to the “haven’t ever shaved” situation, it just feels like basic maintenance now. The disgust at having body hair changed to the euphoria of “oh hey im doing that woman thing of shaving my legs in the bath like loads of women do”.
It’s not gonna be the exact smooth and soft feeling i want for a while, but even just the visual improvement when i look down, hell even just my arms, i like wearing tshirts now. I’m glad i did it.