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Cake day: June 25th, 2025

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  • 2 that I know of, but that’s the majority of my social circle (not working, no family). The other people I don’t think would want to because it’s different and difficult and those are “leave everything at default” sort of people when it comes to tech, so lost cause anyway.

    Both the people who do use it are there because of me, though!

    My partner and I were struggling when I was android and they were iOS, there was delays that threw everything out of order, so we tried a few messaging apps that worked cross platform and I found signal and we started using it together, and my friend started using it when dating a new person because e2ee for naughty photos and stuff, at my suggestion. They were using Snapchat and I was like ummmm… no. Don’t do that. But we use it to talk all the time now.





  • As a chronic headache and migraine sufferer, those people who say “you’re just dehydrated!” really grind my gears. Maybe it’s sometimes true for some people, but lots of things cause headache. Strong smells, loud noises, bright light, stress, depression, you name it.

    It’s significantly worse than when they offer weird solutions they found on Facebook, like putting your hand in ice water, or pressing pressure points or whatever nonsense, because it’s so intensely basic… At least the weird shit has novelty going for it.

    I drink an absolute fuckton of water (typically at least 3 24oz bottles daily, more if it’s hot or I’m doing effort stuff) because I’ve internalized that ableist shit that maybe it just fucking is dehydration (it isn’t, and I know this).

    All that said, stay hydrated friends! It’s not a cure, but it may help prevent lots of shit!




  • Same.

    I like to start conversations with strangers by asking them to tell me something they personally find interesting (specifically not something they think I’ll find interesting, something they do). Sometimes I get some great new information, sometimes just a short conversation.

    It really weeds out people with no personality or hobbies or whatever, though. Like the dude who decided to explain basketball to me… not as an info dump, just because he had nothing else to talk about and it was on tv…

    Even the guy who told me about how he designs machines to make trash bags was more interesting than basketball dude.





  • I haven’t worn a bra in decades other than occasional for a nice outfit sort of stuff.

    I don’t consider it self-care, I just don’t have boobs worth bra-ing up. Why waste the money for something that does nothing?

    Self care is doing whatever makes you comfortable, not what other people say should make you more comfortable.

    Lots of people, especially fem-presenting people, would be wildly uncomfortable with their nipples being visible through a tighter shirt, and you know what? That’s super understandable. People give me looks and comments not infrequently. It’s uncomfortable. That’s reasonable. I’ve stopped caring what small-minded people think so I’m over it, but it takes years to get comfortable with that, and that’s the opposite of self-care if it’s not something you already want to do.