I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoLinux@lemmy.ml•Shouting into the void
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    7 days ago

    Honestly it’s really helped me with spreadsheet formulae and more complex regex search and replace terms. And it’s so pleasant and patient about all of it. So many of those spaces are DEEPLY toxic to noobs and when I paste the error back to it it’s like oh it looks like the regex you’re using doesn’t support that! Let’s try…

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Every day ruleEnglish
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    8 days ago

    Aside from the PTSD someone else mentioned, the number one predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder is a childhood with a “consistently inconsistent pattern of invalidation.”

    In layman’s terms, for most of this persons childhood there were both times where the child was validated and accepted, but at other times they were rejected / told that their lived experience was unimportant / fake. And that intermittent pattern kept occurring over most of their childhood. And that’s pretty much an exact description of a lot of trans kid’s childhoods.

    There’s also a common argument that the invalidation is actually just a form of trauma, but personally I ascribe to the furthering of that train of thought that BPD is just a specific and particularly complicated form of PTSD.

    In the end through you can’t deny that it often results in some people that take a lot more emotional energy to interact with than your average person, and that society often makes it really hard to budget our energy in ways that allow us to give it to them.

    I don’t have a solution to that problem, at least not one I can explain in more than the next few paragraphs. I just hope pointing out that that’s what the problem is helps people reframe their frustrations in a way that’s more constructive.

    I have tried working on !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com if anyone is interested in specific mental health tips, but I’m still in the process of… building the community I guess? I’m not much of a fighter so most of my contribution to a better tomorrow will probably be in helping the people who are good at that kind of thing stay healthier themselves.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoich_iel@feddit.org•Ich🩸💉ieL
    6·
    12 days ago

    Ich hab ChatGPT die Übersetzung machen lassen und dann nochmal mit Google Translate gegengecheckt. Problem war nur: Ich glaube, es hat die spezifische anatomische Stelle, die ich meinte, nicht korrekt rübergebracht.

    Man sieht auf dem Bild nämlich eine leichte Wölbung unter der Haut, wo die Vene verläuft. Normalerweise sind die Venen, die man sieht, nicht so spannend – diese kleinen blauen Oberflächenlinien kann man meist ignorieren. Viel wichtiger ist, was man fühlt. Aber wenn die Vene schon so ausgeprägt ist, dass sie die Haut hochdrückt und man beim Tasten noch ein gutes „Bounce“ merkt – das ist echtes Premium-Material. Ich hab kommentiert, weil viele wahrscheinlich gar nicht bemerken, dass man da tatsächlich den Schatten einer richtig guten Vene sieht – direkt auf der Innenseite des Arms. Und auch die kleinen Wölbungen an den Verzweigungen – wie so umgedrehte Mini-Hügel an der unteren Kante. Als Krankenschwester fand ich das besonders lustig, weil: ja, das ist genau die Sorte Vene, auf die wir alle scharf sind. So ein professioneller Insider-Moment, der sprach- und kulturübergreifend funktioniert.

    Der Bereich selbst heißt auf Englisch „antecubital“, was auf Latein „vor dem Ellbogen“ heißt. Und hier wird’s wild: Englisch ist basically sechs super-slutty Sprachen in einem Trenchcoat, so slutty, dass sie ständig noch andere Sprachen dazuholen für ihren polyglotten Swinger-Club. Und die Vene, um die’s geht, heißt „basilic“ – was ich glaube irgendwas mit „königlich“ zu tun hat. Warum die so heißt? Kein Plan. Aber ich war Phlebotomie-Technikerin, bevor ich Krankenschwester wurde – ich kenn meine Armvenen. Die Basilic ist eine richtig gute Vene (ein bisschen empfindlich manchmal, weil da ein Nerv drunterläuft), aber was ChatGPT da gemacht hat: Es hat „basilic“ offenbar als das Kraut übersetzt. Also im Sinne von Basilikum. Vielleicht haben die Begriffe denselben Wortstamm, aber medizinisch ist das natürlich komplett daneben.

    Und genau deshalb sag ich: ChatGPT ist (noch) nicht bereit, medizinische Fachbegriffe sinnvoll über Sprachgrenzen hinweg zu übersetzen.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoGreentext@sh.itjust.works•can't unsee it
    65·
    13 days ago

    (as an aside before I start this comment, me and my partner are both exceptionally blunt on all accounts)

    I’ve mentioned to my partner before that he’s not the kind of attractive I expected to wind up with, but that I’m pretty sure most of that is rooted in daddy issues, so it’s probably for the best.

    I’ve also told my partner that when he makes that very specific devious chuckle (that deep genuine one it’s hard to fake like when I send him a really good meme) sometimes I can feel my vagina make a little sploosh of goo.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoGreentext@sh.itjust.works•talking to my dad about depression
    4·
    14 days ago

    As an inpatient Psych nurse yeah the previous generations are, as a whole, wildly mentally ill, you just either made do or got locked up somewhere or other, and possibly also got beat, asphyxiated, or otherwise abused / neglected to death. This whole thing where we care about whether or not people with profound mental illness die is fairly new and yet somehow also rapidly fading. Not looking forward to what the Medicaid cuts are about to do to the modern mental health system. I’m just praying that it damages the insurance companies (in my state they get a cut of the funds for each Medicaid recipient by “being responsible” for “managing care”) but I’m not optimistic.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•ruleEnglish
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    24 days ago

    I actually do really really struggle in an N95. I dream of my only work PPE being my panic badge and occasionally some gloves.

    My old unit was a COVID-psych unit for a bit except it’s like. Illegal. to isolate people on a Psych unit for extended periods (with good reason). So you can’t just tell them they have to stay in their rooms, you have to let them use the dayrooms. So we were just out in the unit in full ppe for 12 hours straight.

    And then we started getting sicker COVID patients so I was trying to get this guy who had been wheezing for hours breathing properly before I gave him a bunch of sedatives at bedtime so I went to prop him up to breathe better except we don’t have motorized beds in Psych we just have box beds. So I was carrying like 40lb of blanket rolls to his room to jam under the head of his mattress which I had to haul up into the air with him on it to get the rolls under it. And I’m doing this in full head to toe plastic bag gown with a face shield and an 95 plus a paper mask so that I can keep reusing the n95

    and the doctor hasn’t had time to call me back about getting him another inhaler and I’m swimming in my sweat under the plastic gown and I can barely see through the fog on the face shield (because n95s do let air EXIT around the edges of the mask). And then the dude just has a stroke anyway.

    He lived, actually. The stroke team fixed him. They kept asking if I’d given any sedatives that might be affecting their assessment. Super proud that I got to say no it’s the only time I’ve ever seen an RRT nurse impressed with me.

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