Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect. How they respond determines the amount of respect you continue to proceed with.
Slightly disagree.
Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect.
No. This is true for the first meeting with someone. After that the level of respect is based on their previous behaviour.
Regularly act like a shithead, zero respect required.
Respect is earned. If you don’t treat other people, animals, public property etc with respect, you deserve none in return.
In a way, you respect yourself by not sinking to their level.
You respect yourself by not allowing yourself to have anything to do with them once they lose all respect.
I have a family member I refuse to have any contact with.
I respect this POV
Mad respect, G
But that’s my point. If they’re disrespectful then you lower the amount of respect you give them.
So if a stranger disrespects me, I should disrespect them more?
Sounds like a mutual self destructive relationship if you ask me. Someone either has to be the better person, or just walk away.
Walking away is just as disrespectful as dropping to their level. It sends the same message just with less effort.
No
Good argument. I love all the great points you made. It really persuaded me.
You’re welcome
Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, but if you can’t avoid a fight, ftw. Not words, talk is cheap, but in my corner of the world guns are ubiquitous too. There’s a difference between doormat/whipping person and hostile but at the end of the day, survival instinct is strong.
I disagree with you that there is a minimum anyone deserves.
Past a certain point you are disrespecting yourself to allow them to be in your presence or have any contact with you.
Agree.
- Respect has to be earned (you cannot demand)
- Give proper respect (don’t expect they will reciprocate)
Those are my thoughts.
Right but often the self-respecting thing to do is not stoop to their level and make a mess.
And some times you have to stoop to their level as some arseholes see any respect as weakness and the behaviour will continue. It should never be the first choice but it it is still an option in extreme cases.
Your title contains two opposing statements. Giving respect is earning respect.
Also this is not a shower thought.
Respect, Loyalty and Love are all things that can’t be earned, can’t be bought, can’t be expected, can’t be demanded.
You can only give them.
It’s also not an equal trade, so no one gets it wrong. Not treating someone with respect won’t get them to respect you, but treating someone with respect won’t necessarily get them to respect you, either.
For any young autists that needed it spelled out. Keywords being “treat them with a base level of respect.”
That’s what I tell my students, “I will have exactly as much respect for you as you have for me.”
Respect has to be EARNED Sweet, just like money. 💵
We give it on good faith loan, sometimes, but just because we give it and earn it doesn’t mean we’ll get it. Bstix got it right. Expectations of ourselves and each other are a hard road to disillusionment.
I see too many people claiming respect and treating others as nothingness. It’s not a form of earning, get respect is almost always a villain’s claim from villains people.
Ask me how I know you’ve never worked a service job.
I’ve been working in food service for almost 14 years. I don’t know what you’re on about.
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Ever heard of the respect bank?
