Cool, but at least one of them completely admitted she’s got a lot of issues (nonviolent, so we were pretty good friends until we fell out of contact) and another was actually very violent - against me and at least one other former partner I know about - and SHE was the one who told me about it, not the victim. We were kind of a thing for a bit, but eventually the sex wasn’t worth the constant gaslighting and attacks.
Then there was one who said she’d dyed her hair “mental breakdown red”, but I never got to know her well enough to figure out how much of it was a joke. There was a “this is a joke, but like all jokes, it’s not completely out of thin air” energy about it.
Truth be told, I know one girl who has a similar hair colour and seems completely sane. Don’t know her too well, kinda stopped talking after school and she was pretty introverted back then, but she’s been rocking it as her style for a few decades now. The common thing between the others is that they all did theirs after some traumatic event, which is where I got the hypothesis that radically changing one’s appearance might be a trauma response - hence my nickname for it: mental health red.
Life itself is nothing more than a collection of anecdotes. Outside of math and philosophy, all our knowledge is based on anecdotal/empirical evidence. And in terms of psychology in particular, “everyone”, “always”, “never” and “nobody” aren’t really terms you should use. I never said everyone with red hair is insane or something, I just said a large amount of people with bright red dyed hair seem to have issues. It’s a red flag to keep out for.
Now the question is, how deeply did you know all the people sporting bright hair colours, and can you be sure for real that most of them had no traumas they were dealing with? Someone being “reasonable” doesn’t mean they’re healthy. Nor does having mental health issues mean you have to be unreasonable or even unpleasant.
Cool, but at least one of them completely admitted she’s got a lot of issues (nonviolent, so we were pretty good friends until we fell out of contact) and another was actually very violent - against me and at least one other former partner I know about - and SHE was the one who told me about it, not the victim. We were kind of a thing for a bit, but eventually the sex wasn’t worth the constant gaslighting and attacks.
Then there was one who said she’d dyed her hair “mental breakdown red”, but I never got to know her well enough to figure out how much of it was a joke. There was a “this is a joke, but like all jokes, it’s not completely out of thin air” energy about it.
Truth be told, I know one girl who has a similar hair colour and seems completely sane. Don’t know her too well, kinda stopped talking after school and she was pretty introverted back then, but she’s been rocking it as her style for a few decades now. The common thing between the others is that they all did theirs after some traumatic event, which is where I got the hypothesis that radically changing one’s appearance might be a trauma response - hence my nickname for it: mental health red.
Cool a few anecdotes.
Life itself is nothing more than a collection of anecdotes. Outside of math and philosophy, all our knowledge is based on anecdotal/empirical evidence. And in terms of psychology in particular, “everyone”, “always”, “never” and “nobody” aren’t really terms you should use. I never said everyone with red hair is insane or something, I just said a large amount of people with bright red dyed hair seem to have issues. It’s a red flag to keep out for.
Now the question is, how deeply did you know all the people sporting bright hair colours, and can you be sure for real that most of them had no traumas they were dealing with? Someone being “reasonable” doesn’t mean they’re healthy. Nor does having mental health issues mean you have to be unreasonable or even unpleasant.