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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/DigIndependent7488 on 2025-08-06 11:54:08+00:00.

When you’re in college, making friends is the easiest thing in the world. You’re surrounded by people all the time in classes, hostels, canteens, group projects, random midnight ramen runs. You didn’t have to think about socialising because it just… happened. You sat next to someone in a lecture, cracked a joke, and suddenly you’re in a WhatsApp group planning weekend trips.

Then you graduate, and life flips the script. Everyone moves to different cities, gets busy with jobs, relationships, family. The spontaneous hangouts disappear. Even the people you used to see every day now need a two-week notice to meet up. If you’re not intentional about it, months pass before you realise you haven’t actually made a new friend in ages.

And here’s the part no one tells you after college, making friends isn’t about waiting for it to just happen. You have to create those chances. Go to the hobby class you’ve been thinking about. Show up to local meetups or community events. Say yes to that “friend of a friend” birthday invite even if you’re nervous. Strike up a small conversation with the person you always see at your gym or coffee shop. And if nothing’s happening around you? Start something yourself a weekend walk, a book club, a game night.

It feels awkward at first, and honestly, the pace is slower than what you’re used to. You might meet ten people before you click with one. But that one is worth it. Over time, those small efforts turn into actual connections the kind where you text each other for no reason, where someone shows up when you need them, where life feels a little less lonely.

Friendship after college isn’t automatic anymore, but it’s still out there. You just have to give it a place to grow.