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Yeah this makes a lot of sense. I can talk about things (general, not detailed) but I would rather not open the box again.

It must be difficult dating with that kind of job.

Definitely a terrible feeling. Like seeing the sparkles before a migraine. You know everything that follows is going to be very unpleasant.

To me, that’s not a partner. You’re describing someone who is incredibly insecure with unhealthy behaviors and YES they are a red flag for abuse. To be avoided.

I’m fortunate to like what I do. It’s the grown-ups making the work difficult.

Doing this kind of. I resigned yesterday. Unfortunately I must take a different job. But the “see you never” part is real.

Donkey!

I didn’t know I needed to know about that. Thank you!

The coast, you say? peers out window

A lot of good answers here. Being a good model, correcting behavior, treating siblings with equity.

You cannot control everything though. They will have lived experiences outside of the control of their parent, good and bad friends, teachers, etc. They may be born with different medical conditions. All this is impactful in shaping a person, and how flexible they are.

I feel a little scared imagining that lol. I gotta have my bob ross everything is fine scritch scritch happy clouds.

Yeah this is me as well. I just overthink for hours without a distraction. Give me a phone or something to watch and I’m out in 15 minutes honestly. I feel bad because I know I’m probably degrading my sleep but…as least I’m sleeping.

Since this topic came up another weird substitute for SIB is consuming spicy food. Does not have to be a lot. Maybe give that one a go.

Just picked up the titanic one at a used book shop for basically free. It was like 25 cents. It’s still so cool.

Yes, all of that. Also my laugh is weird.

I enjoy watching it on YouTube. I’m afraid I’d laugh wrong in public so I’ve never been.

So for me when I was dating it was that people were never interested in me as a person, for a variety of reasons.

So for example a lot of people my age have children and look for a mother figure. Or think mothers themselves are not for serious companionship.

Or looking for what I provide as a service (free therapy).

Or it’s a money thing.

Eventually it went from annoying to exhausting. Well, it was not adding anything to my life so why bother?

The local computer repair shop was a little slice of heaven in our rural town. That sounds amazing.

Hmmm make it 17 in 2005, tales of fun lan parties.

I appreciate the memes. Truly. Thank you.