Yeah it’s definitely not cheap, although i think I can avoid a lengthy quarantine as long as he gets the required shots a few days before traveling. I’ll still need to use a pet travel service so I’m sure they will be able to help with any requirements.

This is the second time I’ve heard Australia is the better option for nursing. Any reason for this? I went with New Zealand because the climate and culture seemed more my speed, but that won’t matter much if I can’t find a job.

Thanks for clarifying. I’m seeing a lot of variance in housing costs and types so far. I may try a shared living arrangement the first year to have some other humans around and figure out if I can stay long term before bringing my cat.

Thank you! I am planning to get a laptop before I go, I’ll make sure it’s compatible!

I’ve seen a few things about Christchurch, I will have to give it another look. At this point I’m just gathering locations I’m open to so I can take the best job I can find, nothing really ruled out yet. I’m going to need to save a few months at least before I’m able to finance everything.

Thanks for the reply. Wellington seems to be the better of the two options from most replies I’ve gotten so far. And yes, as an American my expectations for public services and politics are very low, so I imagine I will be at least content with what’s out there.

Thanks for the reply! Your response is a little more nuanced than some I’ve gotten on other websites, and it makes me a bit more hopeful.

I’m honestly surprised about the jobs for nurses; one reason I choose NZ was during to my profession being green listed (I think that’s the term) due to need. I don’t plan to move until I have a job 100% lined up and I need some time to settle things here, so I am hopeful I can do both within the year.

Black coffee, medium to light roast.

Tea with a touch of honey, maybe a bit of milk or cream depending on the flavor.

I was in a similar situation before I transitioned. 34, typically male presentation (hairy, slightly overweight, male fat distribution). I decided to start with things that weren’t as “scary” to me as hormones- hair removal, voice training, getting in shape, growing out my hair. Pretty quickly I decided I wanted to start hormones.

The way I approached it was that I wanted to feel more feminine. I didn’t really have an end point, but I figured I would walk down that path as long as it felt comfortable, and if it felt too much, i would stop. Eventually, my goal was to “blend” rather than pass (to me, the distinction was not being bothered in public, but maybe still having features that people would pick up on, but at a glance or in short interactions it wouldn’t be super obvious).

I ended up having a very successful transition, and I pass better than most trans folks I met. I attribute it to a couple of things - voice training (I had an excellent instructor and I worked my ass off); learning about fashion and finding a style that accents my feminine features but that isn’t overtly sexual, and hairstyle - lots of different looks can help soften or hide more masculine features.

A lot of it comes down to luck with genetics, and while I don’t discount that, I also believe my hard work played a large factor, too. If passing is your goal, there are specific things you can focus on yo help with that. At the end of the day, the reason you are transitioning is a big factor in how you should approach it. I experience euphoria more than dysphoria, and the social aspect of being female was more important to me than specific parts of my body, so I focused on things that would let me experience society as a cis woman does, as much as was possible for me.

If you want to walk this path, walk it as far as you are comfortable going. The only person who determines where the finish line is, is you.

Top. Men.

I think Brave New World is really a cut above most of the other dystopian novels. The themes of conditioning and being overwhelmed with work, games, drugs and sex so much you don’t care about anything else are incredibly relevant in the current era.

I’m in the process of getting certified to be a nurse in New Zealand. Fuck this country.

Myself. No one is looking out for me.

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I think France has won more wars than any other nation in history.

It’s somehow even worse if you’re trans and American. Honestly I almost wish blatant oppression would begin so I could seek asylum somewhere.

I’d like to leave the United States first. Someplace diverse where I can walk or use public transit, and that has clean water and air. If there’s wilderness, hiking trails, or any other kind of nature relatively close that would be pretty swell.

Yeah, I’ve been itching to play Beat Saber without giving these other assholes money. I miss that game so much.

Dammit, Spider-Man, you got me. Guess I’ll just wait it out.

Enjoy it. As long as you aren’t busting out laughing at a funeral this sounds like a gift.