Do it with confidence and you’ll be the cool kid from day one
I remember signing end of elementary/primary school leaving shirts with my email at the time instead of my name because i was certain that my handle would be (in)famous. The email misspelt “requiem” as “requim”
shudders
Kid: I don’t care about ordinary people Same kid: immediately cries at reaction of ordinary people
Anon is Haruhi Suzumiya …
Flashback to a kid in my class who ruined his entire highschool time by saying “my name is [name] and I breed rabbits” during the first 10 minutes of school.
Oof, that’s rough. Was it an urban school? I grew up in an agricultural area and I swear pretty much everybody was breeding something
Yes it was. It was also the early 00’s and we were a bunch of 12 year old shits, and he was (in hindsight) rather on the spectrum.
Man, kids at your school were fucking stupid. That kid had shittons of rabbits that needed petting.
So many school problems could have been solved by saying “you guys are dumb fucks.”
I mean the teacher saying that.
I would’ve beat your ass that show sucks dick and you should feel bad
Fake: you having the capacity to intimidate anyone
Gay: your threat hones in on OP’s ass
It really does, and disgraced anime for a long time and prevented it from becoming mainstream earlier
I absolutely hate those “let’s go around the circle and introduce ourselves” exercises. Making children do them seems especially cruel.
One could say it’s healthy for a growing child to occasionally be put in awkward situations where they have to define themselves. It’s not fun but it helps shape personality.
I’m 44 and I used to hate those too. But there is one fun fact about these. If you go first, you can fill it in as you want and every one will follow your format. Quite funny once you notice this.
Anyway next time I have one of those, I’ll make sure to add “favorite dinosaur” to it.
Don’t you think it’s good to train children to be able to talk to strangers, in public and introduce themselves? I know it’s stressful but I think it is useful.
It’s not training though, you get thrown into the real thing immediately that decides the rest of your social time at school.
If you were encouraged and made to practice in private before, then I would agree with you. But there is no “training” in this, it’s just, either you can already do it or you can’t.
It would be possible to coach kids about what to say in such situations, make them prepare and practice in private, let the teacher hear the introduction before anyone else, give feedback, and then put them in front of the class. And afterwards, talk about how it went, what went well, what to improve. Does any of this happen? If no, then it’s no training.
It’s not training though, you get thrown into the real thing immediately that decides the rest of your social time at school.
Aren’t you exaggerating a little? Kids get to know each other better with time too.
Agreed with doing it with guidance and feedback.
It’d just be a lot less horrible if you don’t have to come up with something to say about yourself. Kids are RUTHLESS and if you’re not quick on your feet, or even if you are, but the thing you say can be taken wrong, you will be bullied for the rest of your time in school over it. Unless you luck out and someone else’s thing is even worse.
That’s just not how people introduce themselves out in the real world though.
work is the real world and i have some news
The problem is the lack of structure.
I organize a lot of workshops involving people from experts to executives, where you always need an introduction round, and I give them a structure to follow. Makes the task it easier, but it’ll also be much more useful for the group, as we’ll focus in the aspects of a person that matter for the context of the workshop.
For a class intro in primary school, it could be:
- name and age
- nickname you’d like others to call you
- favorite subject
- favorite hobby / free time activity
I just made this up, but a teacher could probably come up with something even more fitting.
The point is, always give people structure or guidance, you’ll get much more out of similar introduction rounds.
Sure but in the real world you will sometimes get this and sometimes get no structure. It’s been about 50/50 for me so far. Being able to do either on the fly is good.
Someone in our new partner team has scheduled a meeting for 11am today for us to introduce ourselves to each other.
Guess how it’s going to be structured
You throw a ball at each other and whoever holds it needs to introduce themselves?
I’m so sorry.
What do you think is different compared to when you join some new company, training or club and you are asked to present yourself to the group?
That happens a lot less than you think. And I try to avoid clubs etc that do that nonsense.
I have done this innumerable times at multiple jobs. Maybe it happens a lot more than you think
Maybe I just have a good job.
Depends on the job but this happens all the time for me because I often have to sit in meetings with customers (b2b company) and so usually we have to introduce ourselves at the start of the meeting.
Not to mention when I conduct technical interviews we have to introduce ourselves although you get more control over the introductions when you are the interviewer.
Maybe you are missing some nice encounters then.
Depends how many of these kids will end up in AA meetings
I guess the teachers will just have to make educated guesses based on which students they presume will end up strung out, and then have only those kids practice the introductions.
(But, for real, I’ve encountered this shit in numerous workplaces)
Yeah, and the people who do it in social situations are usually corporate drones.
Introducing yourself to others is like the basis of all socialization. 🤔
Introducing yourself to others is normal. Speaking infront of a group is not. Both can bring out social anxiety but public speaking is different than socializing with a small group.
Speaking a few sentences in front a classroom sized group is pretty normal and kids should be exposed to it. Uncomfortable experiences are a part of growing up.
Of course. But as the first thing overall with no prior training about it at all? No coaching about examples on what to say, no advice about your choices before the real thing? No after-the-fact reflection about what was good, what was bad, what could be worked on?
What training should they need?
I’d say learning to talk is all they really need. The rest is experience.
So as soon as you learn to talk, you can handle every social situation adequately? That’s news to me.
You may not understand this particular issue, because you never had trouble introducing yourself publicly. But you probably struggled at something else, and don’t you think training would have (or did) help you there? So obviously it would also help people, who do exist, that struggle with public introductions of themselves.
So as soon as you learn to talk, you can handle every social situation adequately? That’s news to me.
No, they didn’t say that, they said that knowing how to talk is the only prerequisite. The rest comes only with practice, the sooner the better. Anxiety’s a bitch, I get it, but you make it manageable by desensitizing yourself to those situations (preferably starting with the low risk ones like introductions), not avoiding them.
Edit: I mean the context is school, it literally is the training
its a few sentences about yourself you dont need coaching. People should have done this countless times before getting to Anon’s age. If he still needs coaching at his age he probably has a learning disorder and I dont mean that in a rude way.
How do you know how old anon is? And anyway, we’re not talking about anon here, we’re talking about kids that do this for the first time. I did this the first time I switched schools to middle school, where my lack of skill definitely impacted me for the rest of it, and maybe 2 or 3 times after that. It’s not something you necessarily do countless times.
Both are very important. Not being able to speak in front of a group can change the trajectory of your entire life. Children especially should have as many paths open as possible for when they’re ready to decide which one to take.
Yes, but some people, myself included, find forcibly requiring individuals to introduce themselves in succession to be disingenuous.
I have had to participate in a “Everyone introduce themselves” like five times at a job I’ve worked at less than a year. I don’t enjoy it, and I don’t think anyone does, but it’s also important to know who the people you are working with are. Would I ever do it if I didn’t have to? No way. But I do. And practice has made it easier at least.
Yeah, but there’s something about forcing people to do it that just removes the fun from it all.
Is it cruel?
I don’t agree, I think if you force a crying child to say their name — that’s obviously going too far. But it is important to get kids used to socializing, human beings need other human beings ultimately.
I think if you force a crying child to say their name — that’s obviously going too far.
i’m sorry you experienced that. if it’s any consolation, the only times anyone gets forced to do anything at my wife’s program is for safety reasons. like, get out of the burning building! don’t elope from the classroom to the street with busy traffic or the shooting range just o’er yonder! life and death stuff. i want to say teachers have learned better, but i also want to say teachers have seen just that specific bullshit and been appalled by it. y’know, because they’re human like you and most of me have empathy.
i do too. I have 3 believable truths 3 unbelievable truths, 3 believable lies, 3 unbelievable lies, 7 “interesting facts” about me (i used to have 8 but one of them, uh it required me to tell a joke and that does not work at 8 AM so now it’s gone. I don’t function 8 AM well before.) and i can pick and choose between my pre-prepped bullshit based on my audience and how awake and healthy i feel and what stupid game they decide to play.
worst part is i used to do improv so for the longest time i would just wing it and did fine. then they started doing them before coffee. now i gotta copy my bullshit offa my phone onto cue cards if i have one of those things
Villain arc unlocked.
Anon was HONEST
Was he really? He cried right afterwards, showing how much he cares what ordinary people care about him.
That’s just from psychological stress of delivering a presentation facing a room full of unfamiliar beings. He only interacts with aliens, time travellers and espers!
Upvote for the Haruhi reference cringe or not.
It’s no better or worse than going with the usual Egon quote about collecting fungus, molds, and spores. That’s how nerds find each other, one of them fires off a signal flare, revealing their location and putting themselves in danger, and other misfits sit next to them at lunch so they can all get hazed together.
I never realized that when I was thrown into a locker, it was actually a giant allegory for a ‘gathering the group’ montage.
When you put your ego in front of the fourth wall, anything bad that happens can be a lot funnier.
What the hell are you even talking about?
We had different childhoods it would appear…
You should know, you’re an introvert turtle for crying out loud!
How people find each other in school. Normal people probably just have to read magazines or act like each other to fit in. If you’re a misfit you’re never going to find other misfits with that playbook.
I don’t know about you, but my school had clubs that let me meet other people with similar interests. Ironically, that’s literally what the anime this is referencing is about.
I am happy for you. My experiences differed. I was the only kid at my school who knew you could spend recess in the library, and the clubs were all sports until much later.
Would have been pretty funny (to those in the know) if he managed to do it with confidence. Shame.
Also damn, this Greentext is 10 years old. Doing this nowadays in highschool would definitely net you a room full of blank stares (best case) even if you don’t botch the delivery.
Fun fact: this practice hasn’t changed in the hundreds (thousands?) of years we’ve been asking kids to introduce themselves to a group
Yeah, but this is a specific quote from an anime. The practice still exists I’m sure, but would anyone get the reference?
There are 20-somethings answering pop music trivia from the 70s and 80s with the utter confidence that indicates intimate personal knowledge. I don’t know how or why, but some of the kids are getting exposed to the classics.
The easy answer for music is these kid’s parents are putting those tunes on their home speakers. While I would agree Haruhi is some form of “classic”, I do wonder what parent is showing it to their kid…
Truly God helps those that help themselves.
